Showing posts with label caregiver. Show all posts
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Thursday, November 12, 2015
KAY, New caregiver, contaier terminal
November 12, 2015
Kay trip, new caregiver,
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Wednesday, May 13, 2015
What is wrong with the truth?
Very dull visit today. She was in bed and it looked like she was sleeping. So I just sat down by the bed and watched the RT. Eventually she woke up and I gave her a truffle. Later she was tired of being in bed so started walking down the hall. A caregiver told me the bus was there. Even though it was a little early I went down without making it register on her I think that I was leaving. I don't know how she will react if she realizes I am not there. I like her to know when I am leaving so her mind wont think I am still there.
I had to leave without breakfast as the server forgot after I told her I had an 8:30 bus to catch. I really didn't care as I had eaten a large bowl of oatmeal that no doubt made my b/g go skyhigh. I didn't need any more carbs to push it even higher. Besides I take stuff with me to eat in the middle of the morning.
It was somewhat after breakfast and I saw the server down at the other end of the dining room serving there. I began to suspect she might have forgotten because the time was approaching when I should decide what to do about breakfast if I were to catch the bus. Finally at 20 after 8 I had to go up to my room and eat a bite of something ( apple in this case) on my way down to wait for the bus. I arrived just about 8:30 exactly. Bear with me on this because I have something to bring in about caregivers.
On my way back from my visit with Kay I was still under the impression that what happened at breakfast was just forgetfulness. It probably was forgetfulness that I reason I didn't get my breakfast. At the noon lunch when this server was delivering the drinks I asked if she had forgotten anything at breakfast. She said she didn't forget anything. I asked her if she didn't forget my breakfast I was to get so I could catch the 8:30 bus. She said she did bring my breakfast. As I left at 8:20 it had to be after that if it came at all. The others left after I did. I asked them if she had delivered the breakfast before they left. They said no. In all other cases when I have told the kitchen staff I had an early bus to catch they brought the plate right around 8 AM. This is what really ticks me off. The people here will tell a lie even though the truch would do very well. If she had just admitted she had forgotten that would have been the end of it. It is obvious I can not trust her which brings up other factors to consider. She occasionally does a shift over where Kay is. I am somewhat reluctant to say anything about this because I dont want anything to be taken out on Kay. I have just ignored this womans bossiness towards some of the residents here. Her job is to serve the food. I saw her boss a resident around when he wanted to change his table but she told him he could not. She told him to get back to where his table was. I have no doubt she feels very safe in bossing the residents over where Kay is because they are helpless to resist or know how. How to manage the people there is very important. I think it is hard to keep from pushing them too hard. Because they are so slow. I know of an instance where a caregiver tried to make Kay do what she was unable to do so much that she struck out at the caregiver. Of course that would not have amounted to anything she is so feeble. I don't trust people who lie when the simple truth would do perfectly well. My fear is that these little people will try to get back at me by taking it out on Kay.
Have a nice day.
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I had to leave without breakfast as the server forgot after I told her I had an 8:30 bus to catch. I really didn't care as I had eaten a large bowl of oatmeal that no doubt made my b/g go skyhigh. I didn't need any more carbs to push it even higher. Besides I take stuff with me to eat in the middle of the morning.
It was somewhat after breakfast and I saw the server down at the other end of the dining room serving there. I began to suspect she might have forgotten because the time was approaching when I should decide what to do about breakfast if I were to catch the bus. Finally at 20 after 8 I had to go up to my room and eat a bite of something ( apple in this case) on my way down to wait for the bus. I arrived just about 8:30 exactly. Bear with me on this because I have something to bring in about caregivers.
On my way back from my visit with Kay I was still under the impression that what happened at breakfast was just forgetfulness. It probably was forgetfulness that I reason I didn't get my breakfast. At the noon lunch when this server was delivering the drinks I asked if she had forgotten anything at breakfast. She said she didn't forget anything. I asked her if she didn't forget my breakfast I was to get so I could catch the 8:30 bus. She said she did bring my breakfast. As I left at 8:20 it had to be after that if it came at all. The others left after I did. I asked them if she had delivered the breakfast before they left. They said no. In all other cases when I have told the kitchen staff I had an early bus to catch they brought the plate right around 8 AM. This is what really ticks me off. The people here will tell a lie even though the truch would do very well. If she had just admitted she had forgotten that would have been the end of it. It is obvious I can not trust her which brings up other factors to consider. She occasionally does a shift over where Kay is. I am somewhat reluctant to say anything about this because I dont want anything to be taken out on Kay. I have just ignored this womans bossiness towards some of the residents here. Her job is to serve the food. I saw her boss a resident around when he wanted to change his table but she told him he could not. She told him to get back to where his table was. I have no doubt she feels very safe in bossing the residents over where Kay is because they are helpless to resist or know how. How to manage the people there is very important. I think it is hard to keep from pushing them too hard. Because they are so slow. I know of an instance where a caregiver tried to make Kay do what she was unable to do so much that she struck out at the caregiver. Of course that would not have amounted to anything she is so feeble. I don't trust people who lie when the simple truth would do perfectly well. My fear is that these little people will try to get back at me by taking it out on Kay.
Have a nice day.
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Saturday, April 5, 2014
Saturday with Kay
Normal visit today. The only thing new is that she seems to need increased personal attention That was expected sometime in the future. Looks like the future is now. I called the caregiver to take care of her but it works better if I help. Sad to see her in this condition. Like many in this condition they resent being handles by someone else. Usualy she will listen to me but not always.
She did not eat all her pudding today. They might be giving her food she prefers and also in the form she likes better than Puree.
When left she was at the elevator and the care giver helping me leave her suggested Kay wave goodbye to me from the window. That worked well as Kay and the caregiver waved to me when I got to the ground floor. Nice of the caregiver to think of that.
She did not eat all her pudding today. They might be giving her food she prefers and also in the form she likes better than Puree.
When left she was at the elevator and the care giver helping me leave her suggested Kay wave goodbye to me from the window. That worked well as Kay and the caregiver waved to me when I got to the ground floor. Nice of the caregiver to think of that.
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Visit to see Kay Tuesday.
I took the shuttle to see Kay. She was in with the others listening to the leader offer some information about our world. This is a regular event. I got her attention and she smiled at me. I put out my hand and said come with me. She didn't seem to completely comprehend what I wanted but when I continued to hold out my hand she took it and got up with some effort. After a while she seemed to get stronger. In her room we lay on the bed after I got her a truffle. We held each other while she rested her head on my breast. No TV or anything but us two. About a half hour later I disengaged ourselves and I took her into the hall then back into the room and bed then another truffle. She did the selecting and I had to put back several truffles she had in her hand. I took her back to the goings on in the activity room but she only wanted to stay a little while. Back we went to her room and I stayed with her until the caregiver came in to give her a shower. I didn't see how I could help but at times she does not want a shower. She never took showers at home. Just baths. I those days her hair was different and she would not want to get it wet. Now it is short and that does not make any difference. Strange. About the first thing to go when she began to exhibit signs of dementia was her desire to care for her hair and put on makeup. Something that was first in her life then was first to go. Today she had on a blue sweater and black pants that looked pretty good. I combed her hair as I usually do.
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| She likes my coat |
As the caregiver was preparing her for her shower and I was telling her I was going home and I would be back tomorrow she asked me "are you sure" I am never sure if she is joking or not. I have not had the chance to talk to Iris about their plan to move her to another floor.
Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Visit to Kay Wednesday Nov 13
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| Orchid brought by Mary and Robin about a month ago. |
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| Kay Today. Could you but love a person such as this? |
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| Jaiden at Cascade Gardens |
It is hard to leave her when she is not happy with my leaving. Today she seemed to want to go with me. When she waves and smiles I am pretty sure she understands I am coming back . Today I had to leave in such a hurry I am not sure she understood. So it was hard to leave.
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