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Thursday, December 18, 2014

You can probably skip this one

 Absolutely nothing going on over at Kay's today.   She was in  the dining room just looking out the window I suppose.  Eyes half closed.  I took her to out spot and when I looked for truffles there were none.   I had laid them out in the little kids lunch box where I had placed it so I would not forget it  I figured I would see it when I looked in the refrigerator for my  milk.  Then I would be reminded if I was not thinking of it.  But I forgot anyway.  I make sure I take enough carbohydrates to eat when my b/g goes low about eleven.  Fortunately I had a couple bananas and the milk when that time came.  Kay had to settle for part of the banana.  We went to her room and stayed there until time to go.  Right at eleven the bus was there to take right  straight home.  Different from the usual drive all over Tacoma.

What they call a formal dinner here tonight.  I will actually put on a tie and jacket again.  It's the Christmas special.  Music provided by a band or entertainers they hire. Nice of them.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Easy today

 Not much to reprt today.  The elevator was down.  Understand that  it didn't work so I walked up to the third floor.  Before I had left though it was back in operation.  The control was messed up.  If you pressed a button nothing would happen.  In this place this is a disaster not to have the elevator to work.  Almost as bad as here if both went out.  There almost everything is only one floor away.  Entrance is on the second floor and patients are on floors 1,2 and 3.   No patients are not on the 4th flo0r which is the top floor.  No activities  were conducted.  Kay was in bed but not asleep.  So I sat by the bed ad held her hand while watching RT and the arts channel.  I have said all along.  That if you love the food here from FSA you have been here too long.  Today the lady across from me said the pudding was very good.  I know a package pudding when  I eat it and it doesn't  compare to a baked  custard. The differemce might be that her sense of taste is bad.  Thats about the only  thing I have that is still good.  My hearing, eyes, balance knees and so on are bad.  But somehow my sense of smell is still good.  But that is the way diabetes works.  It destroys different nerves in the body depending upon the directon it takes.  

Monday, December 15, 2014

Kay speaks again

Nothing was going on at Kay's place today and I found her sitting at a table with her head on her arms  napping I suppose. I took her to our place and all she ate was one truffle.   I took her back walking very slowly.  In her room she lay on her bed and covered her with my coat.  They still have not fixed the room heater yet.  It is not cold but not as warm as it should be.  I let her nap while I sat in a chair next to the bed watching RTTV or the Arts channel.   Finally time to go arrived and I woke her although she didn't seem to be really sleeping.  When I told her I was leaving she smiled and said "OK". That really surprised me.  Anytime she speaks a clear word it is surprising.  When she answers me she can find a word now and then.  If she wants to tell me something that is on her mind she can not do it. 

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Good visit

 Thanks for the comment anonymous.  Today she tried to say something like  "Did you" but could ot get the right word out so had to stop.  It hurts for hours after she tries to do something and cant bcause of the dementia. That is one reason why I wish we were together instead of apart.  At least she would have the comfort of being with people she cared about before this condition came about. Fortunately she is getting used to her surroundings and her ability not to get her thoughts out may not stay long with her. That is not a lot of comfort to me though.   

  Today she was in the TV room.  She went with me for her usual treats and seemed  hungry.  So she ate 2 truffles, part of a banana and a couple crackers.  I offered her some milk out of my big  coffee thing I bought to bring milk or other drinks in.  But she either did not want it or could not handle that kind of cup. 

She was OK when I had to leave. 

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Kay spoke today

 I had a long visit with Kay today.  We didn't do much.  I thought there was nothing going on and did't check the activity room when it should have been so we missed it.  When I had told her I was leaving she said as clear as a bell, "Thank You".  I tried to get her to say something and she did one word but I forget what it was.  The strange thing about it was they were very clear and to the point. Wouldn't have been nice if she was in her right mind and able to live to this age together.  So many are separated. Of course we are separated but in a different way. 

Friday, December 12, 2014

Nothing much to report.

 So routine I will describe it in short.  Kay had her head in her hands on the table in the dining room.  Everyone else had gone to Active Day. To exercise the mind and body.  I tooke her to give her the truffle and what else I had for her to eat.  Banana, graham cracker, truffle.  Then back to her room where I sat by her bed until it was time to go home.  She waved back to me whe I left so she was aware and normal. 

No gift of jewelry because none is left now.  On to bigger and better things.  

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Kay to donate her Jewelry;

 Not much to report today as it was a short visit and there was nothing in the activity room going on. I gave her the usual treat and a fairly large piece of cake.  I just figure she has not eaten much breakast as usual.  Did I metion that I got a Christmas Card from the people who answer the phones there at the shutte?  I am wrapping up a DVD.  I expect to send a few to them to see who they are talking to when I call. That should shock them.  I have decided I might as well give Kay's jewelry to the women here.  I had   a nice ring from a yard sale 2 or 3 years ago and gave it away at a rummage sale here a few days ago. The woman who got it was so appreciative that maybe they would like the stuff Kay had collected over the years. She will  never use it again.  Any family members who has different ideas should contact me. They have a jewelry making class here from time to time.  i will make this a Christmas gift. /

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Pretty routine

 Short visit because of getting there so late.  They were in the discussion mode in the activity room.  Kay was sitting there so I got a chair and we sat together for  few minutes.  She got up and took my walker, I had no idea what she wanted to do.  I let her leave the room and see where she would go.  She turned in the direction of out favorite spot so I thought she wanted a trufflle.  She followed me to the iron furniture where I gave her what I had to eat.  Not much that I would recommend. But as she probably did not eact much breakfast it was the best I could do.  I gave her a truffle, As much banana she wanted and a small graham cracker.  As you can see a lousy menu even worse than MacDonalds.  But   I had nothing else to give and if you are hungry anything helps. We went to her room for the rest of the stay.  I probably napped some of the time.  When I left she also got her walker and kept going around the hall while I called the elevator and return home.  

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Kay gets out of custody... for few hours

 Tom brought me some supplies then we went over to see Kay.  We took her out to the Krispy Creme and she had a couple donuts.  We know she eats very little of the food there so I expect her to eat when we go out.  As I said yesterday I got there before she finished eating.  It looked like she had just started.  I eat the same stuff and it is not our type of food.  Seasoning and ingredients.  
At Crispy Creme

She had a good time and seemed to know that Tom was her son. 

When I left her she accepted my leaving  normally.  She waved to me as I walked out.  It is hard to leave her.  Now what does she do?  

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Suicide in the dining room

I wrote an update o my visit to see Kay but I must have hit a key combination and wiped it out.  In the meantime I wrote the following before discovering I had wiped it out.  Not much went on anyway.   She was very slow mentally and physically.  It might just have been a bad day, and not a trend. She had no trouble knowine me and smiling in return to my smile at her. 

A funny incident in the dining room today. Some are not above snitching goodies from other tables.  Today a guy who is constantly going around saying "Same old sh-t" concluded  a piece of banana cream pie was not the same old  and as he went by he picked it up from the place where the woman who sits there was not going to be there for lunch.  But he didn't count on the woman in the next chair who saw him and told him in no uncertain terms that she had her eye in it and to put it down.  That he did without  comment and slunk away.   Now the woman who had dibs on the pie already had one at her plate.  She needed it like I need hole in the head.  She is diabetic and takes ten pills of one kind for foot pain  every day.  There is hope however tonight she didn't eat the bun that came with the hot dog with chili beans on it.  I always leave the bread and even give her my cinnamon roll we get at Sunday breakfast. I told the nurse that the next test everyone would be over 200 (meaning mg/dl).   I got there too late to find out except for one which was 225 or something like that.  When someone complains about food quality (appetising) they drag out that they give a Detroit's meal.  It definitely is good for acid  reflux but not for diabetics.  For instace the Sunday Evening meal as all of you know in institutions and military organizations Sunday meals are skimpy.  Take the one at noon with the pie.  In addition to that there was a baked potato (cold by then) Chicken deep  fried with batter, broccoli  and most any kind of drink you would want.  (I always skip the sugary and fruit drinks) Consider this fairly light carb representative lunch (for this place) The pie I would guess would run at least 200 grams of carb.  The hot dog probably 7 or 8, baked potato probably at least   50  grams, the batter on the chicken at least 50 grams if high glycemic index carbohydrates.  Then there is the chili with maybe 15 grams of carbs.  You add it all up and it probably consisted of 325 grams of carbohydrates.  this is a light meal of carbohydrates. I  know that if I were to eat all that my b/g would be sky high.  My b/g will go up about 4 points for every gram of carb I eat.  If I ate 325 grams of carbs figure it out for yourself.  I cant imagine my b/g going that high as other factors might make it stay  under the calculated estimate.  But it would go sky high when you consider it would be added on to the hun 5.2 was common.  The doctors managing diabetes do not manage diabetes taking into account how much a gram of carb will raise b/g.  I take 5 units of insulin for each meal.  I have seen some here take as high as 80 units at a time plus the slow acting.  When I bought a vial of insulin it cost me 23 dollars at Wal Mart.  It would last a month or more.  I bet their supplier does not charge them WalMart prices so you can imagine what insulin costs are.  At the time I was buying from WalMart a vial at the  local drug store cost over 50 dollars.  At 80 units at a crack you can see for these people insulin costs are astronomical.  How the human body stands the abuse so long of diabetes is incredible. I would like to illustrate how b/g inpacts the feet for instance.  When we were a family we would make home churned ice cream.  This is usually a custard.  If we did not eat it all we would keep the excess in the refrigerator.  If it was there a couple weeks the sugar would settle to the bottom. That's what happens to the legs and feet.  the glucose is not pumped back up into the body but settles in the feet where it blocks the circulation of the blood.  Then sores and infections can turn into gangrene.  Then it is off with the toe or foot.  Doctors have another name for it but that is what happens.  glucose is heavier than blood so it settles to thee bottom too. It is interesting to learn how the kidneys handle glucose and why 30 percent of diabetics die from kidney failure.  Hardly a day goes by tht I am not on a bus with someone going to a clinic for dialysis.  There are many clinics in Tacoma.  As in all towns.  Big business.  Is that the reason there is so much ignorance about kidney failure? /Doctors say it is easier to cure cancer than obesity.  Looking around here I can believe it.  Even those few who have read my book by Bernstein still cant control their eating habits.    

Saturday, December 6, 2014

Trouble in Paradise

 When I first saw Kay she was in the hall walking around   without a walker.  So I gave her part of mine and I took her to our spot and I gave her the usual.  We went back to the activity room and we did some exercises. During this period I thought she needed some personal attention so I got the attendant to take her.  But when he came in she refused to leave me.  So I got up and managed to get her to come with us.  But when he wanted to take her into the restroom she refused to leave me so I took her back to our chairs. Later after we were in her room I had concluded she didn't need any attention anyway.  Usually she submits to the attendant but this time no.  I am conscious that a reaction like this could be because of the one who was going to do it.  Unfortunately I have no way of knowing.  I am not infavor of this way of attending to these personal needs.   If it happens again I will see if I can get a female attendant and see if there might be a difference.  

I have a questionair to fill out regarding how well I think they are doing.  It's probably as good as I can expect. The other day I reported that the room  heater was not working in her room.  So I called this to the attention of the maintenance guy. The next morning he told me he had taken the cover off and tightened the bolts. For one thing if he had done that there would  have been evidence of overheating because with a heater that size a loose bolt means poor connection and then there is resistance and the connection will heat up.  That is how a fire might start.  As I told previously there was no heat coming out of the left side.  That means it was not working at all. But he told me he tightened up the bolt.  The next morning while waiting for the shuttle the head nurse found me waiting and told me it had been fixed.  I told her it had not been fixed because I had checked it and it was still not heating properly.  After I got to the facility the second maintenance guy told me they had ordered a new heater and it would be in.  They would fix it then.  By then I had decided to just drop the subject because the weather was warming up and the heater could keep the room reasonably warm working half way. 

Do they think I am stupid?  You could tighten those bolts until the threads were stripped and it would not fix the heater.  Why this maintenance guy would tell me this when he knew I could put my hand down at the heater and tell it was not working.  Did he not think that all I had to do was check out another heater like that and see the difference?  I've always liked this guy as he seems to like  me and my attention towards Kay. I felt he was honest in his dealings with me.  Does he really have no respect for people in my predicament and just softsoap me and others to keep us mollified? This is a real disappointment to me as I thought he respected me and would if he told me anything  it would be the truth.  Because if he had tightened the bolt all he would have had to do was turn the heater on before he left the room and could have seen it was not working.  Not only that he probably could have visually checked to see if it was working. I know that too many people  here  do the same.  Think we have no way of knowing and will accept what they say so we are satisfied and they are rid of us.  Nothind substitutes for honesty.  Wasn't it Jesus who said "and all liars" 
Kay was smiling a lot at me today.

Friday, December 5, 2014

Nothing really new

 I found Kay walking the hall today and took her to our favorite spot for truffles.    After that I took her back to the activity room to sit in on church.  The speaker was late and by the the time he got there it was quite late and I decided to leave in order to have a few minutes alone with her.  I would have had to leave during the service anyway and I didn't want to do that.  The bus was a little early and because I got there late it was quite a short visit.   But I expect to be there tomorrow too  make up or the short visit today. 

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Late as usual. Depressing

 By the time I got there today they had already done the exerciese and the leader was going over current events and other topics.  Thesre was no chair open next to her so I sat across the room.  I sat across the room from her.  She saw me and smiled so I know she knows me.  Shortly I got her and went into the hall foor her usual treats.   The to her room for the remainder of my stay.  It was quite short because I got there so late.  To make up a little for the shortness I stayed after pickup time because I knew they would call me if the bus came before I I got down. Sure enough it was late and I sort of made up for getting there late. It should not be too late because then I am late for lunch/  In that case I just call and tell them I will be late and hold the plate.  

This is a depressing place.  Nothing wrong with it just what it represents.  Some days Fire is here several  times.  If you think doing activities hides the fact far from it.  Think about it.  In the evening is most depressing.  Quiet, Kay is there and I am here.  

Have a nice day

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

You can skip today

 Kay was in with the others with an alternate leader for news and perhaps exercises.  I didn't get any of that because we left  before she got to that.   It seems there was something I want to tell you but I forgot what it was.  Am I headed to join her? I took her to the hall and iron furniture where I gave her a truffle and graham cracker.  She refused the  banana.  We had our monthly meeting of people involved with dementia.  This is my second month.  Not a large crowd.  One that attends has a mother on the same floor that Kay is on.  I see her every day too.  

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Kay's room still not warm.

 These pages are becoming so hard to read I don't know how mumuch longer I can read it.  I make it big and bold but google keeps displaying it normal when it is posted.  Several years ago Bob gave me a ham radio to use when I could no longer read it so the time may not be all that distant. 

Kay's room was still not very warm although the maintenance guy said he found a loose connection in the heater.  It seemed the same to me.  By chance when the second maintenance guy from my place now working there came in I told him to compare it to the next room and he agreed with me it was not working right.  I hope he can do something about it.  I don't want him to  have to cross the head guy to do something about it.  But it needs to be fixed.  I took Kay to the activity room where we participated in the exercises.  I told them it was a special day for Kay as her first child was born this day.  12/2/1941. That is impressive but not nearly as much as when one of the kids tells you he will be having a 50th wedding anniversary soon.  That really shakes you up.  Wow! Married 50 years ago and your kid. Time to charge up the ham radio looks like. 

A half hour before time to leave we went back to her room where I stayed until time to go.  Anyone who wants one let me know and I will send you a dvd I made of us and whatever else was in the picture! Narrative and music has been added. Kay seemed very normal today    

Monday, December 1, 2014

Poor heat in Kay's room

 Well, I guess I stalled so long yesterday I forgot to make an entry.  I found Kay's room quite cold.  I had told the maintenance guy there a week or two ago that the heater was nor working properly.  He put his hand down and said it was working.  I didn't argue with him at the time  as I figured he would agree with me.  But now the cold weather has arrived and the two people in the room should not have to put up with that.  Kay especially is not capable of registering a complaint.  When I found her yesterday she was sitting right in front of the heating register in the activity room. So she must have been cold.  I took her to her room later and put a coat on her as she lay on the bed.  I talked to one of the caregivers yesterday as I was leaving and she agreed with me that the room was cold.  She  also said she would make a strong complaint about it.  Nevertheless that was Sunday and no one would be around to fix it.  So she might have been cold all night.  The maintenance guy is quite impressed with my daily visits but I cant let this go in order to stay on the good side of him if it should come to some sort of disagreement which is not likely.  As I have pretty good proof that I know what I am talking about. Half a heater is nearly adequate in normal weather but when it gets down to 20 to 25 it can not keep up.  You can tell it is not working properly by feeling the heat on each side of the register.  One half has hot air and the other cold.  Means the element on the cold side is burnt out or no voltage to it.  Breaker perhaps.  I expect some results by tomorrow. I cant understand how all these caregivers can be in and out of her room without noticing it.  But some come from places where electric registers don't exist. 

Saturday, November 29, 2014

Back to routine

a dail Just got back from seeing Kay. she is in good spirits.  I left here about 9:10 and got there about 9:24 which is pretty good time.  I left her at 11:00 but the bus didn't come until 11:30 then we had to take a tour of Pierce county on the way home picking up one person on the way.  Finally getting here about 12:10.  I learned something recently.  I wonder how she put  up with me before I quit smoking.  So many just reek of foul cigarettes.  A bath and change of clothing daily would take care of it but I don't know how many do that.  As if they do I don't smell them.  But so many women and men both don't realize how bad they are to non smokers. 

I watch the Arts channel a lot.   One of my favorite pieces is any choir.  Best if with an orchestra.  All the singers seem such beautiful people.  The Choirs of Coventry and Litchfield   with orchestra just performed several selections.I think they have just changed the list of programs so this should be on for about a week.

Friday, November 28, 2014

Ci Kicked off bus

 Routine visit to see Kay after the big day.  Several commented on how beautiful she is.  When we got her home she wanted to sit on my lap.  She never did that before.  If she did I probably asked her to do it.  Today we sat in on the exercises before going back to her room.  This after noon I got a message that the shuttle people wanted an explanation on why I cancelled and no showed yesterday for the bus.  In the arranging of rides and changing rides because of the holiday and docto-rs appointments I forgot to cancel a shuttle pickup when I had arranged for Bob to take me over to get Kay. The way I got the message that if I didn't give them a good answer they might give me a three strikes rating which cuts me off from riding the shuttle.  At least that is the way I read it.  So naturally I was somewhat upset especially when I thought we were on the best of terms.  I am prompt and have no real  problems.  They showed no indication of problems when I called and told them that in the confusion of making appointments, cancelling and other matters I thought I had cancelled it.   But I was considering the measures to take if the worst should ever come to that.  Like headlines reading:  Blind decorated  93 year old combat war hero of the Greatest Generation kicked off bus going to see his terminally ill sick wife. 

But it never came near that and everything is hunky dory and peace reigns supreme again. I do get upset when my transportation is threatened.        

Thursday, November 27, 2014

What got into Kay?

 Kay seemed to have a real good time.  I get this impression every time
 she goes out with us.  They had her fixed up good..  I had told them she was coming and many were very interested in what I had been going to see for the past year and a half.  I don't know what they expected.  She needed the close care to guide her to her seat.  We were being watched very closely by some.  Others said she was very beautiful.  She said one word. I dont remember what it was  She did nod when a yes was requested. So she heard and understood. It was a good Thanksgiving dinner.  We took her back and when we got her to her room she wanted to sit on my lap.  OK with me for a few minutes.   She did not want to stay in the room so we took her into the hall and down near the TV room.  There  we had the Caregiver take her inside as we wished her goodbye before it might register negatively on her.  But because she seemed happy and what happened I think she had a good time.   Tomorrow when I have more time I will  see if she wants to sit on my lap again.  It was probably something that came about because  of her trip out although I am sure she will do it if I ask her to do it. 

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Upcoming dinner tomorrow

 They must have had a late breakfast as Kay and a couple others were still sitting at the tables when I got there about 9:20.  I sat down beside her and she looked at me unsmiling.  Just looking not seeming to comprehend what she was seeing. I didn't know if I should leave her there or take her for a walk.  I decided to take her to her room after a short walk to see if there was any change.  I got my walker in position and she got up with my help.  but immediately sat down again.  But after a couple tries we went for a short walk then into her room to see if she recognized the truffles when I brought a wrapped on out.  She immediately recognized it. She walked so incredibly slowly.  So I watched TV and held her hand while she dozed.  I think some times she goes to her room and lays on the bed with me just to please me.  For instance today when I got up to leave she also got up and wanted to leave.  Whether because she wanted to be with me or tired of the four walls I don't know.  But I have evidence from other times that leads me to think this.  I had a care giver direct her into the activity room after I told her goodbye,  That hopefully got he attention off me while I escaped. A caregiver told me today that she finds her way to the dining room without help now which is amazing.  I also have not found her in other bedrooms either for quite some time.  Tomorrow we have family guests at our turkey dinner.  Bob is coming down and we will go over and   bring Kay back for dinner here.  This is causing quite a stir.  They have know I have been going over to see her every day for a year and a half  so they are no doubt curious to what she looks like.  Bettern most of them here you can bet.  I printed out our wedding picture and will have it standing on our table.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Fred on Everything. The Revolution of 2019

The Second American Revolution

An Utterly Objective Analysis

November 23, 2014
 The Revolution of 2019 began, curiously enough, in fall of 2019 when Mary Lou Johnson, the nine-year-old daughter of a ranching family outside of Casper, Wyoming, came home from her sex-ed class at Martin Luther King Elementary with a banana, a packet of condoms, and a book called Sally Has Two Mommies. Her mother Janey Lou, a political reactionary, took one look and began screaming. “Goddamit! Goddamit! I’m not going to take it anymore!”
 She grabbed the shotgun, a nice Remington 870 loaded with double-ought buck, and headed for the school.
Historians would debate just what led the surrounding population spontaneously to join her. Much of it seemed to have something to do with the schools. One father reported that he snapped when his daughter came home during Harriet Tubman Week, and he asked her about Robert E. Lee.
Another father, objecting to students who wore low-hanging pants, said, “It’s supposed to be a school, not a frigging proctology workshop.” A common concern was that in a fifth-grade class on Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay, and Transgendered Rights, the teacher had criticized Primate Privilege, saying that animals had rights too. She then gave the class a pamphlet called Mommy Says Moo. Wyoming was cattle country. Local wives were wroth. They thought it an invitation to infidelity.
There then followed the now-infamous Near Death March, in which the entire faculty of the school was run across the Montana line by infuriated citizens wielding cattle prods. These, dubbed the Poor Man’s Taser, were then turned against anyone associated with the federal government. “The bastards won’t leave us alone. I’m gonna tase’m where the sun don’t shine. They’ll sail back to Washington in one hop like a damn electrified bull frog.”
The uprising, which had started locally with Janey Lou’s shotgun, began to spread both geographically and in its content. Apparently people were fed up with a lot of things. Nobody in government had noticed.
It is now agreed that the catastrophic events which followed occurred in part because Washington, which was celebrating American-African History Week, simply did not recognize the depth of resentment in the country. The city traditionally was inward-looking. Few knew exactly where Wyoming was. Their sources of information were chiefly talking heads talking to each other about each other.
By unfortunate happenstance, the Supreme Court had just issued its landmark decision that public display of the Bible contravened the constitutional prohibition of the establishment of religion. Mere possession, the justices said, would not be sufficient to trip the prohibition and lead to prosecution, but “a reasonable reticence in display” should be practiced. It was agreed that the Holy Book could be carried in a sealed bag with a child-proof lock. That this happened during Moslem Heritage Week further fueled ire among the intolerant.
The Court’s ruling had ripple effects unforeseen in the capital, as most things were. When the rebellion metastasized to Rosa Parks County (formerly Jackson County), Virginia, forty miles outside of Richmond, they were shocked. The provoking incident occurred in Sojourner Truth High School in a rural and not very Reconstructed county.
Specificallly, Johnny Loggins, in the tenth grade, had been issued a condom and, in the back of his African Civilization class, was discovered to be praying for a chance to use it. This also constituted an establishment of religion. He was arrested by several of the thirty-five police patrolling the corridors and remanded for psychiatric evaluation.
Runors flew, fanning the flames. The Democrats, having elected the first black president and then Hillary, the first woman, were said to be looking for a transvestite for 2024. In respect to 2032, the ominous word "trans-phylum" floated about. The people of Casper feared they might have a President who said "Arf," or perhaps had tentacles.
The insurrection went viral thanks to the internet. Incident followed incident. In Brooklyn on Sixth Avenue, seven teens between the ages of 21 and 28 beat to death a 95-year old white veteran in a wheel chair, shouting “Kill Whitey!” and “That’s for Travon!” and “White dude bleed a lot.” The chief of police undertook a thorough investigation. He reported that there was no evidence of racial motivation. Jesse Jackson said it was unfortunate, but white men in wheel chairs needed to learn not to attack black teenagers.
After an enraged mob of R-Cubed—the movement was now calling itself Rural, Retrograde, and Right, the Three Rs—had surrounded Columbia Teachers College and burned it, Washington recognized that things were getting out of hand. Reporters asked why the arsonists had, well, arsoned Columbia. An irate woman screamed:
“My kid is fifteen, can’t read, and doesn’t know who Thomas Jefferson was but he’s had three different classes on safe anal sex. I didn’t raise him to be an analphabetic butt-plug. Excuse me. I need to find a professor.” She left, brandishing her ball-bat.
Her assertion was not entirely implausible. A recent poll by the New York Times had showed that 87% of college freshmen, or freshpersons, couldn’t find the Pacific Ocean on a map of California, and fully 54% didn’t know what “Ocean” meant. (“Didn’t she sing with Grody Kate and the G-Spots?” asked one female junior.) Others couldn’t identify Jesus Christ, Mother Theresa, or George Washington, but were “sure or almost sure” that they were racists.
Washington was soon surrounded by R-Cubed insurgents, many of whom proved to be well-armed and with military experience. They soon revealed their true colors as homophobes. Rampaging, they burned gay bars such as Moby Dick and The White Swallow, shouting, “We don’t care where you stick it, but we don’t want to hear about it.” Much squealing and a mass exodus followed.
Surprisingly, it was Maxwell Birnbaum, inevitably know as "Ol’ Burn and Bomb,” who led the hous- to-house fighting. He was not a soldier, or ex-soldier, but a classics professor from the University of Virginia in Charlottesville. As the Three R’s fought their way through Arlington in the Virginia suburbs of Washington and reached Key Bridge, key to the city itself, Birnbaum told a reporter, “Twenty-five hundred years of European civilization, and we’re going to give it up to people whose Mothers Say Moo? Like hell we are. Did trilobites scuttle the Cambrian seas to bring us Clitler? Hillary, I mean. If they had known, they would have stopped reproducing. I won’t stand for it.”
The rest is well known. Congress in its entirely was slaughtered, and hung upside-down from lamp posts though, unlike Mussolini, they were not emasculated. It was pretty much agreed that they had taken care of this themselves long ago.
Peace returned. Janey Lou put away the shotgun, and made lunch.
Philip Francis Stanley and Grotesque Ophthalmological Malpractice

Serenity then Chaos

 Got to see Kay today.  I  first took her into the activity room where I participating in their exercises.  Most of them seem to like it.  Kay just sits there of course.  I think she might participate in them so a limited extent like she did before if I keep taking her into the room like I have.  I keep her there listening and watching as she seems to like being with the crowd.  She sometimes leaves her room with me when I leave and goes to the activity room as I catch the elevator.  This means I  don't give her a truffle until  I leave.  The last half hour I take her back to her room and a truffle then a few munutes of rest before I leave.  She went with me today,   I directed her to the activity room instead of continuing on around the hall in a walk. Very routine today.

Not so routine at home.  I went to the Dr and got my bandage over the nose surgery removed.  They took out the stitches.  I go back in two and a half weeks for a follow up and final I hope.  
Back home here the usual bickering.  A woman wants to come to near our table as her friend at the table and her like to talk.  She said the other women at the table don't like her and forced her to leave with very vindictive actions. That is the same table that another woman also left under the same conditions some months back.  The is the second and possibly the third forced out from there.  She in her young days attended some catholic  boarding schools.  Sounds like there might be some conditions that exist here also exist there;


s there. It will be hard to get her to move to our table as it is filled up  Sounds like common problems in these and those kind of institutions We will see.   I have never been privy to the goings on in a catholic girls school.      

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Back to normal

 Normal visit today in  most aspects.  She was walking the hall so I took her to our favorite spot where i gave her a truffle.  We went back to the activity room where they were doing exercises.  I did mine but Kay didn't.  After a few minutes on her own she got up and wanted to leave.  I let her lead which was back to her room.  We stayed there until it was time to go. She accepted my leaving without any resistance and is back to waving to me when I go.  So if my absence affected her it doesn't still seem to be with her.  I expect to bring her here on Thanksgiving for the noon meal.  They will have it at noon so most of the staff can be off for the evening meal.  

Friday, November 21, 2014

First time after surgery. It's OK

 An  interesting trip to see Kay after a week of absence.  I was concerned about how she managed while I was gone and what effects it might have had on her thought process.  
And how she would she react to my return.  There are millions of ways a brain with dementia might react. Dementia comes in so many forms it is unimaginable. Was she having memory problems that she would forget me in a week?  I didn't think so because she can learn something if she does it enough times.  Like getting a truffle,  Me pulling out of my bag the bag of truffles. Taking her to our spot in the hall where I give her the treats.  These things she knows. Her ability to know when I tell her goodbye and I will be back tomorrow. So I didn't think she would forget.  But if I did not come and do the things she expected what effect would it have on her? How much did she depend on me? She had a cousin and sister in law who were put in a place like this and they died in about 8 months. Loneleness?  Heartbreak?  Even though temporary how would it effect her. Then I had this bandage which changed my appearance.  The first few days in addition to the bandage my face was discolored and swollen.  No way could I go at this stage.  I had to leave her alone.  That would no doubt be  the lessor of two evils. I   will have the pictures at the bottom of this post.  So today I find out. Nothing was going on on the 3rd floor.  They had allowed her to stay in bed.  I  went to the bed and sat down beside her, close. I put my hand on her and woke her.  She looked at me and smiled. She knows me!!  When I leaned over her she pushed me back.  She did't like my looks.  I turned to my walker and pulled out my lunch box.  She is quiet.  I opened it and she is still quiet.  I pulled out the truffle bag and unwrapped one. Her hands were  in the way in her eagerness to get one. One after another until I  had given her 4 when  I  had to put a stop to it.  This procedure had changed her somewhat so that she will now take her pills. But first she had to get rid of the truffles she was still trying to eat.  She went with  me to the TV room where a number of them were watching TV or talking to each other.  I had to ask the attendant to check her over but she didn't want to go with him   I took  her to her room expecting the attendant to  have better luck from that location.  She literally fought against  leaving  me.  But somehow she did get into the bathroom.  But there she was fighting back so much I decided I would go in and see if I could be of help.  It helped a little and just enough that the job could be completed.  After that it was about 35 minutes or so before I had to leave.  She used my walker to return to th
couple days after surgery

e TV room where I put my arm around her and she rested her head on my shoulder until it was time to go.  So now how will she react to my leaving? What I found is that until she gets used to it events are happening so fast she cant comprehend what is going on. Today she looked at me when I told her I was leaving but she didn't wave back because she didn't understand. Tomorrow or later she should start waving back because she knows I will be coming back.  One of the caregivers said one day she seemed upset because I was not there but I did not have a chance to find out what went on.  One of the caregivers on the floor said they were worried about me because they had not seen  me for so long.   I had talked to the head nurse on the floor below but apparently there was no occasion to tell them I was ok.  

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Going back tmorrow

I have not been to see Kay since Monday. Tomorrow I will be going back to see her.  I have been pretty ugly with a big bandage on my  nose and swelling  and a black and blue eye.  Looking pretty ugly and I thought it might scare her if I went over in that condition.  The nurse there thought it might also.  So I am just  hanging tough until it eases off somewhat.  It is not gone entirely yet but I hate to be gone a long time where she might start forgetting who I am.  My constant daily trips were so frequent I dont think she could forget me.  A nurse here who also works there says she was coughing a lot.  From the Gerdes disease I am sure.  If they could get her to take an ant-acid pill it might help

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

A Slap in the face. no?

 No trip to see Kay today.  This morning  after yesterdays surgery on my nose to remove a growth that turned out to cancerous they took some more skin off it so I look pretty bad. Not that I looked good before.  Worse.  I was actually concerned that I might frighten her with the swelling and gross bandage.  Tomorrow the gross looking bandage can be removed and replaced with a normal bandage.   I will no doubt still be swollen up even though I will be putting ice packs on it for the next two days.  I hadn't looked in the mirror this morning when I went to the med room   and it was beginning to swell up which shocked the LPN.  Apparently he had never seen the aftermath of surgery on the face around the eyes.  He did 't know what to do and would call the doctor.  I was also concerned because the swelling had come up so quickly and wanted a doctors opinion  I told the LPN that I could send a picture but he said they don't do that.  (That  figures) If he had not learned it 25 years ago it didn't happen.  I was in my room when I got a call from a nurse there at Cascade Skin care.  I talked with her and she assured me that swelling and bruising was normal.  I know that because of experiences I and Kay have had in the past.  I told her I could send a picture and she liked the idea so I sent a couple.  After looking at them she assured me it was perfectly normal. She also said the picture was very good.  Meaning they have had experiences in the past with less that adequate pictures.  I might as well post it and let you see what she got.


Monday, November 17, 2014

Didn't see Kay. Good excuse

 I didn't go over to see Kay tod because I had to go back to see if the skin growth on my nose is clear of skin cancer when they took  it off.  As there were still some cells in the area they had to do further cutting to remove it.  They are confident they have it all gone. I will come back in a week for them to check.  Right now it is beginning to hurt so I may have to take a pain pill if it gets worse.   I will put up with it if it doesn't get worse.  They keep removing skin from around the are where they removed the growth until they no longer see more cells. It's easy to put a bandage on a finger but ot so easy to bandage a nose. I don't know if it is a good idea to see Kay tomorrow with this ugly bandage on my nose.  I might scare her.  On the other hand if I don't go she will miss seeing me for two days straight. Will she think I have abandoned her?  I am going to take a chance on seeing me and either scaring her or not able to recognize me with the bandage.  My eyes will probably be black and blu
e by then.     

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Kay is smiling now

 Kay was in the activity room when I got there.  Breakfast had not been totally cleared away but I sat with her a few minutes.  She was like yesterday.  She would look at me and not smile.  I looked carefully at her and she looked with a look you would see in a little kid who was sick and felt bad.  Eye lid slightly down over the pupil and a pained expression.  I tried go get her to tell me if she hurt but I could not get a response.  After a few minutes I decided I would try a truffle so I took her into our place in the hall.  I could not give her the truffles with other people around.  We stopped at the pill giver at the entrance to the room and she took her pills just fine.  When we got to the table and chairs and I was giving her the truffles she began to smill at me and become more like herself.  No I don't think it was the truffles she was just doing something and perhaps wakine up.  We went back to the activity room where they were beginning their exercises.  I participated in the exercises although Kay did not as usual.  During reading the news and while we still had a little time  I took her to her room for the remainder of the time. 
You see a lot of these people with symptom f oncoming dementia. A lady stopped to talk with her friend across from me complaining that someone was entering her room and tearing it up.  OK, could happen but then she claimed that the second night it happened again but she was sleeping at the time.  That is kind of hard to believe.  Even if she had a hearing problem.  I have not paid much attention to this before but the past few days several women have shown symptions of dementia.  One got so bad she had to transfer to Cascade Gardens.  She is on the same floor as Kay. Sad

Saturday, November 15, 2014

Hard to write this. rape, murder

 Kay seemed very slow today. I  found her in the activity room but nothing was going on this Saturday. She seemed unable to do anything. She looked at me with her mouth slightly open.  She would look at me  but no smile, or attempt to hold my hand. I would lean over and tell her I love you but there would be no change of expression.  Just her eyes would follow me. There was just a few in the room but nothing to do.  I managed to get Kay up and take her into our place in the hall where I gave her the usual couple of truffles and part of a banana.  The caregiver said she did eat something but I didn't learn how much.  I  took her to her room and had her cleaned up then she laid on the bed to rest.  From then on it was just watch RT until time to meet the on time bus.  

There is lots of diabetes and early dementia.  The lady across the table from me is quite forgetful of some things that a lot of old people forget.  However there were 3  incidents recently that cause me to be fairly surely she has dementia.  3 times recently she claimed she was going to Seattle or Vancouver,  her home town, for a few days which never came about. Another thing is her tendency to blowup  at inconsequential things.  Like a late delivery, getting the wrong thing for dinner that she thought she ordered  I have no  doubt she is developing dementia.  Then the old lady behind me at the next table who almost every day asks me  how my wife is.  The  next question is  how old is she.  She is always shocked when I tell her 93.  She is a German war bride.  Her husband was in Berlin during the occupation and married her.  I wanted to show her some Pictures of Berlin and other occupation picures after dinner but she would forget we had the appointment and disappear before I could tell her I had the pictures to show.  They are on a memory stick  for one of these electronic picture frames.  So eventually I just gave up.  Now and then I amaze her with a word or two of German that I learned while there.  One time I played the tune in German named "Lil Marlene"  that I put on  a DVD  She knew the tune even though  when I had asked her before if she knew it she said no.  I know she knew it because she hummed along when it was played. One morning her husband woke her up and said.  "You know I love you" She grumbled an answer "You woke me to tell me this?  Then he rolled over and died. The moral of this story is : Wives be careful how you answer if your husband tells you he loves you in strange circumstances.   This man was  an Army Top Sergeant and not prone to   telling anyone he loved them. He had married her in Berlin. She had also suffered under the conquest of the Russians  which included rape and murder of the German women.  She survived although many women committed suicide at the disgrace of carrying a Russian baby.

Then there is the lady across the hall who moved in 3 or 4 months ago.  You would not know she has dementia.  I pass her in the hall and exchange pleasantries.  Not having an idea she has a problem.  She is slender, well dressed, hair taken care of.  that was one of the first things that Kay  left unmanaged. Also  makeup.  But this lady is made up but  I haven't noticed if she wears lipstick.  But she is obviously a cultured person. She had only mentioned to me once that she had health problems.  A few days ago there was a man and little girl who seemed to be prepared to go into her room but I had gone into mine before I saw if that had happened.   I asked her later if she had had visitors and she said no.  that sort of confused me because I thought the man and girl had knocked on her door.  Yesterday I was sure of it but today when I asked if she had had visitors she said no again.  Obviously she if forgetting their visit.   That is strange how dementia works.  She is forgetting people who come to see her but takes care of her personal attire. 
I just got a movie from Netflix on dementia.  It is called Notebook and in a lot of ways follows my experience with dementia  Not the extra non dementia Hollywood  fancies. but the descent into dementia and the dedication of the husband to care for her as long as he can.  James Garner stars.  Remember him?  It's old but still good. Bad part is it does not have captions so I miss a lot of the dialogue.

I probably spent 3 hours writing this but think how long it would have been if I had fixed all the mistakes .  The cursor is almost invisible which takes a lot of my time looking for it. Chow       

Friday, November 14, 2014

She was tired and sleepy

 Another late pickup that got me to see Kay at 10:20.  /Most of the group was at church on the remodeled first floor.  I found a sparce number of people left in the activity room.  Kay among them with her head on the table seemingly asleep.  I woke her and got her to take my walker and come with me to her room.  There she lay down wanting to go  to sleep  I suppose.  When I offered her a truffle she took it and even one more.  I was not able to ask a Caregiver is she ate breakfast and as she wanted to sleep I just sat by the bed holding her hand until time to go.  I would not be surprised if she did not eat much breakfast. She was so slow and feeble. She seemed to awake enough when I woke her to tell her I was leaving and would be back tomorrow. 

I am in the process of trying to keep m daily visit to her on Monday and still keep my appointment with a doctor.  But it looks like I will have to miss my visit with her on Monday.  This will be the first miss in a long time. 

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

table partner hurts.

 Nothing was going on in the area of group activities today as the podiatrist was coming to attend to the patients.  So Kay and I were waiting in her room for him to come and attend to her.  He had not come by 11 when I left to go home.  Here at the dining room table there is a woman who has pain in her abdomen.  As she cant talk except for  a very few words she cant tell where the pain is and how it hurts.  The other person at the table had her write what was wrong and she read it as hepatites c.  I came upstairs after dinner and looked up what ca be done for it and an operation except for a liver transplant was possible.  I rather think that she is not getting a liver transplant.  I still think her eating half or nearly a pound of coffee creamer might have something with it.  Also she eats more than that of sugar.  My opinion is that eating to excess aything like that could be suspect for internal distress in the abdomen.  But as I don't know very much about it I have to leave it to the experts.  Unfortunately I don't know if the experts know anything about her habits.  I told the head nurse some time ago but she didn't seem very impressed. I got home about 5 after 12 for lunch.  


Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Tension rides the shuttle

 Kay was about average today.  I took her for the usual truffles and graham cracker. The caregiver said she ate breakfast but not very much.  So I tried to make up for it.  She did not want to take her pills but you can get her to change her mind in a few minutes which she did. We got them down her but it  took some real subterfuge. Back in the activity room I participated in the exercises.  She still does not participate.  Just before 10:30 I took her back to her room and let her rest,  At 10:30 they called up and said my ride was here.  This is 30 minutes before it was supposed to be there.   Bad relations developed between the bus driver and me before she delivered two riders then came back for me at 11:20. I was not happy, The driver was not happy.  No one was happy.  On the way home things lightened up and relations returned to normal.  However at home I did not know I had left a bag on the bus when I  got off.  Later when I discovered it missing I started  checking where I could have left it.  It could have been in only 3 places.  Cascade Gardens, the bus, or here where I live.  I called the Gardens but they would check, I did not call the shuttle people because they pick up left items and it will be in lost and found tomorrow. So if I left it at the Gardens they would let me know About 7:30 there was a knock on the door and when I opened it there stood the bus driver with my bag.  I had left it and she went out of her way to bring it back to me on her own time I suppose.  With feeling I said "I could kiss you."  For just an instant she hesitated.  I could sense the hesitation.  But some thought overruled the impulse and she turned and went on down the hall.  For  some reason the tension  in our first meeting was gone  and she wanted to be on good  terms with me. This was evident on the way back because there was a complete turn around  in her demeanor.   It has been a month since I saw her the first time.   I had no intention of making a report. I wonder what caused the change of attitude.  Perhaps she had learned about my daily visits to see Kay and for some reason it struck a cord.  She did mention she and her husband had separated several years ago.  Perhaps there was something there that Kay was getting that she longed for.  I'll never know but this story today has a happy ending. 

Monday, November 10, 2014

Skulduggery going on?

 Kay was in bed when I got there.  I gave her a couple truffles but forgot to give her a cracker or part of the banana.  She felt warm so I had them take her temp but it was only 99.  She also was in a warm room and dressed under a cover.  I didn't do anything while there except watch TV.  I got there late so was not there a long time.  When leaving to catch the return bus I felt her and she felt warmer so stopped at the nurses station on the way out and asked them to take her temperature.  So far I have not managed to get in touch with anyone to find out what it was. She didn't seem to indicate she was distressed at all.  The room was warm and I had to open a window.  I will check soon.  

Day 2

This is day to of keeping tabs on how long this door is going to remain defective before they fix it.  It has been open several days and no one has fixed it or even closed it.  They have been told it needs fixing.  I told yesterday how easy it is to be walking along the side of the hall and come close to tunning into it.  I thought that now I am doing this I would at least be aware and not come close.  However today walking down the hall I was  thinking of something and forgot it was there.  I didn't run into it but as I passed by it startled me when I got  along side it and was shocked at how close I came to running into it  I mentioned this yesterday how it wont stay closed.  I put a shim in it and it stayed closed for a week but someone took it out and now in just a short time it pops open.  It is fairly safe where it is now as you have to be close to the wall to run into it.  But it can open a lot wider and then
 it could be much easier to run into it.  I talked to the maintenance at least twice plus putting a shim in it to keep it closed and I am going to leave it up to them from now on.
OK Folks help me.  Is there some skulduggery going on.  Did Kay pull a fast one on me and get botox injected into her lips? Actually I would not have minded much.  However she might have done it on the sleigh because I thought it was dumb to do it like some of the movie stars were doing it at the time.  Lips real puffy.  Are they still doing it?  I have gone back into my pictures and posted below her in our wedding, a picture where she might have done it and a picture taken last August.  I think it  is hard to tell but give me your opinion. 


Sunday, November 9, 2014

Things not quite right.

 What a day it turned out to be. Things deteriorated into chaos at dinner.  I got my insulin about 5 to 5 and went into the dining room.  I delay getting my insulin until the time to eat as I do not want it beginning to work before I get something to eat.  It begins to work on my b/g in about a half hour.  As I keep my b/g as near normal I must watch it carefully.  We are supposed to get meals by 5:30.  But first I wanted some milk which  a lady at the table offered to go to the kitchen and get.   While back there I heard some ruckus between women going on and suspected she had something to do with it. She told me that another lady near where the coffee started shouting that there was no ice.  She was trying to get some ice to bring back to the table. Apparently she saw a few pieces and was tring successfully to get them.  For some reason the lady shouting at her found some reason to interfere.  Anyway it degenerated into the shouting match.  My helper did not get the milk but the server came at that time and gave me some.  

We continued to wait for our food getting later and later when I had to have something to eat which I got from my bag while waiting.  I cant give what was going on to avoid complications.  My table partiner loudly complaining about the wait.  Promising to talke to Lincoln tomorrow.  When the server finally came I asked him what was the cause of the delay.  He said it was the complicated menu.  I was having a cheese burger and she was having a chili dog.  Not particularly complicated to me.  Finally I got something to eat and considered going back to my room.  When I got to the waiting area I could hear a loud ruckus. Just what it was all about I could not determine but it was loud.  Normally there are no visitors here but this time there was.  I felt embarrased at the ruckus and told them this was not a normal event. These people who were part of a group relatives visiting their grandmother or great grandmother. 
Some of the LPN's are not very well versed in diabetes and the rights of a person to their medical records.  If you remember I had a dispute with a nurse about what I was entitled to.  The nurse today   rightly refused to give the great granddaughter the great grandmothers medical records.  She should have felt enough compassion to suggest that she get her grandmother to ask for the records.  She was just upstairs.  Now to my case.  I go  to the med room when it is timeto eat.  Also to get my insulin.  When I got my b/g reading which was close to normal.  She asked me if I wanted my insulin as if the normal reading was some reason to wait until b/g came up.  She didn't seem to know that we take insulin to cover the carbohydrates I would be eating.  Not where my b/g was now.      

Problem solvers we need you

 Very normal visit today.  She was in with the group for exercises.   She kew me.  She didn't look good so I took her to the hall and gave her the truffles and a graham cracker which I now have.  We went to her room and we stayed until time to go.  When she walked it was very slow.  In her room she seemed to want to sleep.  I got the return trip at 11:00 on time and was back about 11:15 which is very early from the normal arrival.
 I called for an attendant to take care of her personal needs but it still somewhat unsettling for a male to do it.  That is the reason I think they are required to keep the door open at these times when they do this.  Although they don't always keep it open.  Here at this place I have told them about a fire extinguisher cabinet in the hall where the door keeps popping open because of no latch.  It is hung at eye leve of course and there is a danger of running into it and putting out an eye or other damage.  Nothing was done about it so I put a shim in it that kept it closed but someone might not have liked the look of the piece of tissue paper doing the job so it was removed.  Now it is popping open again.  See th picture.  This is a normal hall and passing someone or just walking down the hall not thinking about it it is very possible to run into it.  As you can see the door  could reach  more into the hall if it was opened more makeing it more dangerous.  I did this when in high school in  Chowchilla  many years ago and I can tell you it is not a laughing matter.  It also illustrates the callous disregard some of the workers here have for the residents.  This the way it is for some not all.  But it is very common for them to just tell you anything because for one they don't care, two they might not know but will tell you anyway just to get you off their back.    I've told Steve and Louise both.  Now we will see how long this continues before  something is done about it.  As  I have only one eye left I would take a very dim view of having s-omething happen  to it. 

Another interesting problem.  At  my table there is a woman who  had a brain injury some years back and although she can think she can not express herself verbally except for a few words.  So when she wants to tell you something it is just a guessing game. It seems well nigh impossible to guess what she is trying to convey.  Today there was a seemingly normal lunch she was trying to get across to us.  We just could not get what she was trying to tell us about it.  I finally decided we are taking the wrong approach trying to understand what she is telling us.  I was thinking about if a system could not be developed to find out what she was trying to tell us.  There used to be a TV game show called "What's my line"  for example.  Then there was the game even adults played that used a technique of asking if what the person was thinking about was animal, vegetable or mineral.  The details are very vague to me.  If anyone reading this has an idea about this please leave a comment.  I know something can be done it as she is intelligent enough to understand what we are trying to do.

Saturday, November 8, 2014


 Very normal visit.  A different woman was leading the group and there was no exercises.  After I had given her a couple truffles we went into the meeting.  The group always seem to enjoy group activities.  When done we went to her room for the remainder of the time. One of the wome at the Alzhimers meeting has her mother at Cascade Gardens.  I know her as she is on the third floor.  At one time she was a world traveler and very knowledgable.  I finished my DVD on our life during the WW2 period   I'll start a new one on the period when I went overseas and after. 

Friday, November 7, 2014

Friday Church

 I got to Kay fairly early.  Took her to hall chairs and table where I gave her the truffles then took her to her room.  There I gave her half a banana.  She seemed hungry but I did't have anything else like Graham crackers to add to it. 
she took her pills whole according to the pill dispenser.  I don't want to call them pill rollers.    She did not eat a lot of breakfast according to the caregiver. Maybe that is the reason she ate the things she ate.  On Fridays they  have church services at Cascade Gardens where Kay is and at Cascade Vista where I live.  Here they bring a priest for Catholic services.  I havent asked but he might go to the Gardens to hold Mass on Saturdays.  I cant remember which day they have Protestant church services here. But they do.  When Kay finished eating the banana there was nothing else going on right at that time but I asked her if she wanted to go to church?  She nodded yes but I leaned it didn't happen until 10 AM and even then the preacher was not expected to be there until 10 after.  So as it was not a long time to go we waited in the room until it was time.  finally it was the time and a black preacher showed up.  We sang old favorites and he gave an inspiring talk.  I have never heard a black preacher and did not know what to expect.  Perfectly reasonable although I would imagine in his church a little more relaxed. The group attending seemed very happy  to be there and joined in the singing with gusto.  Kay did not appear to sing but seemed to enjoy it.  She seems to enjoy being with the group   so I will be sure she attends events.  Unless she is tired we will be at more of them. 

Some time ago I suggested they attach a DVD player to the downstairs TV so people could play their home movies and what not for others.   Great idea the former  activities director said but they wanted a combo tape/dvd player. Nothing came of it but when the new director came I gave them mine which I no longer used.  The director claimed she got no answer from the brass even though she asked them.  She gave me her's which did not have a tape player in it. But things stayed in limbo with nothing happening.  The other day Lincoln announced a general meeting for residents to register their wants and complaints.  I firgued this was a good time to ask him directly  about it even though he did not answer my email request earlier.  That is the reason I figured he did not want something like that.  But today in the meeting I asked him and with no hesitation he said to see the activities and another manager to get it done/  Just like that it was accepted.  This makes me wonder just how much was the truth the were giving me about it. Why they would not want it I have no idea.  Of course they have a room where they play movies but they select them and they residents don't have any say in the matter I don't think.  I may be wrong about that. Now we can play our home movies or other movies for a select group which could not be done before.  We can even pick our own movies from other sources if we  want to. I was going to play a home movie for some of the women at another table.  I think one or two have died since the first offer. I think the previous situation was just a stalling tactic for some reason.    

Thursday, November 6, 2014

A sad tale

 The visit was just a little over 30 minutes today.  You cant win for losing.  Late getting there  and an early pickup.  The return driver  was a young woman with sad tale about student loan.  24 K left on a 30k loan.  She need a few more credits for a degree but the degree is worthless anyway.  When she asked if they were accredited they said yes but it was not transferable to a state school.  Sad. Then the other passenger had several toes amputated because of diabetes. So much ignorance about diabetes deliberately fostered by the medical industry.  The bible says love of money is the root of all evil.  Have a nice day. 

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Good time had by all

Kay was difficult about taking her pills but eventually did.  In some sort of drink crushed up.  this girl at least crushed them to the extent I could not see them so perhaps Kay did not notice them either.  Apparently she is used to someone giving her this stuff so she knows she is expected to take it.  Just like pills when they are offered.  We stayed and I took part in the exercises then after discussing events and other things I took Kay to the hall chairs and gave her the truffles.  Then it was time to stay with her until time to go to her room. I am trying to get as many of the family to come for Thanksgiving dinner.  Everyone askes about her now so it is time to show her to them. Getting Dianne down here is a little more difficult but you can go a long ways paying for a round trip plane ticket just going out to dinner at a nice restaurant.    I am still trying to talk her into coming.   

the exercises are good for me.  they are designed for the person who is not very active.  They use all the muscles one does not  ordinarily use.  Especially us old folks.  Not very vigorous but because they use all the muscles they burn up a lot of b/g so I have to watch or mine will go too low. Kay was fairly alert but they said she did not eat much breakfast if at all. I can tell she is alert because she smiles when she first sees me.  

Monday, November 3, 2014

Kay rejects pills at times.

  I listened to the group leader for a while with Kay but she is not able to participate so I took her to the hall furniture and gave her a couple truffles.   When I came in I had a talk with the  head nurse asking that they do not giver her crushed pills in a sweet drink.  She had been used to taking the pills whole from another med teck previously.  So when she refuses her pills in chocolate or some similar food there is no possibility of taking them later.  I also suggested that to give her pills in a food after she has eaten might be self defeating.  She is not hungry by then so more food will pronbably be rejected.  I don't know what happened to the other girl who was fairly successful in giving her full pills.   She may have been replaced with a new one it seems.  She does seem to have had considerrable experience.  I am concerned however that some might just not take a lot of effort to make sure Kay is given every opportunity to get her pills down.   I gave Kay her truffles then took her to  her room.  She used my arm as a pillow until it was time to go. 


Sunday, November 2, 2014

Kay was not well

 It turned out that Kay did not feel well today. Later I found out that her head was spinning.  She was able to indicate to me by making a circle with her finger over her head.  The normal way to do it.  I think it possible that it is because she is not taking her meication.  It might be a side effect of her not taking the pills. But I don't know.  I will talk to the head nurse tomorrow. To me it seems they are not taking the best approach to how to give her pills. Up to about 2 weeks ago we were doing pretty well.  I normally get there during the period she gets her pills and if I can I help out.  This nice  young med tech was giving her pills whole and if she would not take them she might crush them and put them in something to drink.  It seemed that we were having some success and she was accustomed to  someone offering them whole.  She seemed to have become accustomed to the process and would take them.  I have not seen this tech recently and the present ones seem to  first just crush them and put them in a drink of some kind. The idea is that she will like the drink she will not know of the pills.  I think this totally unworkable.  First to work she has to be a little bit hungry.  But they give her the pills just after she has eaten breakfast. So why should she drink this stuff when she is not hungry?  They could at least give her pills before breakast.  I will have to talk to the head nurse tomorrow and see which approach to take.  I would like to start back on taking the whole pill and get her used to taking them whole.  When she sees them brought out she knows it is time to take her pills.  Otherwise only offer her pills before meals.Before breakfast or dinner if that is something they can do.  But they should go back to giving the whole pills with a back up of crushing the pills.  This may take some time. Today the pills didn't look all that crushed.  She was taking them out of her mouth they were so big. I got her to take a little of the drink but not much.  I may get the record for the past month and see  what the report is.   

I went to Costco  this afternoon to catch up on some food.  I found that walking around Costco is next to walking a Marathon.  I did not get all I wanted.  I did get the truffles but only after the help ran down where they were.  Not with the regular candy. I was also very happy to get a fresh bag of coffee.  I learned that even the roasted beans that are 3 or 4 months old have already lost their flavor.    

Friday, October 31, 2014

Extra activity reported

 I read a news letter "" which reports on events in the middle east by reputable sources.   If this was in the middle ages Christians would be organizing a crusade to save christians in that area. We have a president that is not interested in saving Christians. All he seems to be is interested in the next election.  He is allowing Christians to be slaughtered by the tens of thousands.  He is doing absolutly nothing.  Christian churches are aiding and abeting him by saying noting and doing nothing.  I can not for the life of me understand why.  I think theBible has something to say about people like that. How they can live with themselves is beyond me.  The US news media is keeping this covered up. Go to the above address and see for yourself. Remember an election is coming up. 

Kay was in where they were doing exercises today so I joined in for a while.  Then she started coughing again.  So I took her to her room and gave her a truffle. I only have a few left.  Tomorrow I will go to Costco as Tom tells me they have restocked for the coming season.   This place is offering to host members of families of residents a Thanksgiving dinner. I have asked the kids to come.  Robin cant but he will be suffering in Hawaii instead.  I want Kay to come so the people here can see her.  They ask all the time how she is.  I would like to figure out a way to get her made up like we did for my birthday but naturally it is a holiday and all beauty shops are closed.  Besides it would not be good overnight as she cant maintain it. 

I forgot to ask if she took her meds today.  I gave two DVD's to the nice lady bus driver.  I've had her before and she likes to discuss things. How she reacts I will not know as I may not see her for days or even weeks. The owner of this place was very impressed with the one I gave him to watch.  He evidently does editing   too as he mentioned that I must have spent some time on it.  I am in the  middle of a major revision.  This one covers the period of the beginning of WW2 up to about a year after the end.  I have quite a few pictures made from a book of paintings by a German artist giving their side of the conflict. I am trying to figure out how to show our side on one side of screen and his side on the other side of the screen. This is called split screen.  I was looking at Picture in Picture.  Maybe split screen  is a better way to look at it. I need help

Thursday, October 30, 2014

About usual.

I just wiped out the results of about 45 minutes writing.  You would have been fascinated.   Kay seemed in pain so I took her to her room.  She took her pills they said.  she ate no breakfast or not much.  The exciting things will have to wait for another time if I get in the mood.  I gave her two truffles and half a banana.  If I had had a sandwich I would have given her some of it but the one I had was two days old.