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Friday, March 27, 2015

Homesick?

 I continue to miss Kay in the evening after dinner.  I would go see her twice a day if it didn't take the entire afternoon or morning.  I still intend to try it. She is so very slow.  I think that is a continual condition.  She ate quite a bit of the treats I came with which means she is not eating breakfast to any extent.  She eats about 8  and I get there from 9 15 to 10 00.  She would be continually hungry if  didn't bring her something to eat.  I also think if I didn't go to see her she would be dead by  now.  Or at least starting the process by not getting enough nourishment. Anyone reading this should   remember that she would be starving to death. 
If I were not there she would be hungry all the time. All  of us know how hunger feels.  We fix that problem as soon as we can.  I hate to think of her being hungry.  I may start going over regularly two times a day.  What happens if I am not there to help? I get away from lonesomeness for her by trying to fix up a decent video of her from our collection of film and pictures.  This is too maudlin.  Forget I said it   Have a nice day   

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Some News

 Kay was in another room in another bed.  She had gone there recently as the caregivers saw her in the dining room last time. I took her to her favorite spot and gave her the usual.  She was quite hungry.  They say she does not eat much breakfast so she being hungry is no surprise.    Then to the other place to sit in the hall near her room.  I decided she might like to get some fresh air so we went to the second floor and then outside and sat on the bench in the sun.  No wind there so it was hot.  So it was back up to her room for the remainder of my stay. She seems to be slowing down in every respect.  Mentally and physically.  I believe when we were walking in the outside yard she walked towards a small green tree and had   not realized how to get around it.  I may be hasty with this conclusion I  may have reacted faster then she was going to. But it seemed she had walked into the tree and had not figured out that she had to go around it.  

A--- raised a big ruckus yesterday about me comparing her and Kay walking speed.  When she doesn't know what to do she just screams insults and calling people dirty names.  She has gotten by for 9 years this way.  She screams insults and the people cant take it and leave the table.  But those of us there now are not impressed and let her scream.  In fact if they  would not say anything at all she would finally stop.  But  yesterday they/we didn/t stop and any attempt for us to reason with her just created a bigger outburst. As I said yesterday a pill tech came over and gave her the "now now" treatment and she finally stopped her whimpering and calmed down.  For 9 years she has ruled the roost with her tantrums and cant handle any opposition.  One day she sent a new server away in tears because of her insults.  She has gotten the special treatment so long she expects to get food not on the menu  making the kitchen people go to extra lengths to get the food out to every one. Yesterday the others at the table held their ground knowing that any comment would just make her outburst more mean and viscous.

I don't know if there is anything to the rumor that they will be putting cameras in the halls.  It is oppressive enough now.  Every employee is a spy as it is now. There are no secrets here.   They should put them in Med room or Kitchen.  Better yet put them in their dementia facility where the people are helpless to protect themselves.  This place has been here 16 years.  They should list the times a camera would have helped avoid an incident.  I dont think they have reported any thefts.  How many assaults have occurred where the camera would help.  I can list one, no two, over at the other place against Kay, just Kay alone,  that would have  helped.  That is where they are needed.  

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Wednesday, March 25, 2015

Big noise at table 8

 My first day of going over twice in one day.  She was hungry and ate several things.  Almost a whole banana.  

Big noise at table 8 in the dining room this evening.  I was telling the other three about going over twice a day to see Kay hopefully to bring back her walking strength.  I was telling them she has to walk or they will move her to the 1st floor.  It has a limited view of the outside. Very depressing.  It is for those in the final stages of dementia.  It still would be depressing to have Kay put there.  I was telling them how slow  she walked and compared her to the speed that Alma walks.  Now, I was pretty sure Alma might be sensitive about how she walks but she has been trying to be pleasant lately and I thought she could understand what I was trying to do.   She  mulled it over a while then began to attack in a rage any of us who didn't roll over and get up and leave in a huff.  Instead we just let her rant.  Karla tried to say something but she was screamed at by Alma calling her brain damaged.  Me, she said I smelled.  I cant think of what she called Debbie but we all just sat there letting her rant.  She was in such a rage that she would not calm down but continued on until the pill person came over and got her to calm down.  Giving her the "now now" treatment.  When we had made our point that she could not drive us away with her insults we got up promising to be back in the morning.  She has been driving people away from this table for nine years now and for people to sit and let her rant is something she cant cope with.  Others cave in to her rants and insults and as we don't follow suit it is a situation she cant cope with.  She even tried to invoke the Owner Hanson in her rant but that didn't work either. We just sat there and let her rage.  

That is enough for today.  Time for a break.   

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

New effort to exercise more

 I am making an effort to get Kay to walk now.  The problem is that she may also be mentally failing likewise.  Her responses today may be one of her bad days.  I don't remember the good days and how they compare.  Maybe they both go together.  In any case I am going to keep trying to get her to walk just in case that is because I have not required her to walk enough to keep strong. Tomorrow I will go twice a day. I will evaluate the results and schedule another day.  Probably Thursday. She ate truffle, banana, and graham cracker. 
she didn't smile much when I left as she normally does.  Is that due to her decline?  Maybe she is just tired.  
Have a nice day

Monday, March 23, 2015

New Idea

 I was late to see Kay.  I wanted to talk to the head nurse to tell her I was going to come twice a day.  I wanted to ask her about Kay's strength to walk.  Is that just the advance of her dementia and would could I help and strengthen her by  walking her more and more.  Maybe I didn't ask her right because I  don't remember a definite answer to my question.  I believe it will work.  So I will be going twice a day most days starting Wednesday. I will have to figure out how much to walk and a way of timing it so I know if she is getting stronger.  We walked some then I took her to the 2nd floor which has some furniture set as a lobby to sit and visit.   Although I was there only an hour we got in quite a bit of  walking.  

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Great news

 Great news.  They are looking into the program that is supposed to be able to reverse dementia.   Kay  was in the TV room.  With the others.  She does not watch TV,   She is at the stage where she wants to be with others it looks like.  I took her to give her the treats.  I got to talking to a trainee who is very interested in WW2.  I will get in touch with him later.  He wants a picture of us on the beach.  Finally someone interested.My grandchildren dont seem to be.  My attention was on him so much that Kay must have felt left out and headed out without a walker.  We got her to her room.  In the confusion she wound up with the truffle bag.  I don't know how many if any were eaten when my attention was diverted.  It seems though there were not many left.   She knows where I keep them.  

Friday, March 20, 2015

UCLA is not a quack outfit

 Kay was dressed but in bed.  I gave her truffles and a graham cracker.  Because I got there late as usual I just stayed in her room as she seemed so sleepy. The return shuttle was almost on time so this was short visit.  

Got an email from one of Shirleys kids today.  They seem to be in a wait and see mode as far getting as Shirley's dementia is concerned.  She said Shirley knew of the dementia so I guess there is no doubt about it. When  Shirley told me she was getting lost there was no doubt in my mind.  This wait and see mode is just wait and see her get worse and worse as she dies.  I have told them the consequences of this.  It is up to them.  Getting her on the UCLA program if there is one is a lot of work.   But not nearly the work they face if she is left to keep advancing with dementia.  I don't want to be a nuisance.      

Thursday, March 19, 2015

What goes on where Kay is

 I finally got them there at Cascade to put paper towels in the bathroom.  The the next day they were  out of toilet paper.  I reminded Hannah of being out so I expect her to take care of it.  That is important as some of the women in Kay's room still use it normally so the paper is needed.  Whether the women wash their hands I dont know but there should be towls there to dry in any case.  I dont know how these places can say they are good if these things are left undone  I sent an Email to the administrator about the paper towels after 3 days but she never got back to me.  They could pay their help maybe 50 cents more an hour to do a good job and replace the under performing ones.  The turnover is huge.   All the beds have two pillows.  Yesterday Kay had only one.  So I had to tell them.  She can not tell them.  I use one when I visit her.  So of course I notice.  

They finally found the missing remote to the tv.  As I suspected it was found in one of the dresser drawers of the lady in the next bed.  She was the only one who could have known where it was so I suspected her.  I could not search her things of course so I just had to wait and see.  

Kay was very slow today.  And yesterday too.  She could not do the simplest request to turn her walker.  Is this a major change in her? If so this is what I wrote about in my DVD "Love Is. What this DVD really means.  Write and I will send you one.   

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Good visit but sad

 Kay was sitting in the activity room this afternoon when I got there at 2PM.  She immediately recognized me so I took her to the hall where she had the usual.  She was quite hungry eating 2 truffles, graham cracker and most of a small banana.  There was nothing going on in the activity room.  However some were going down to the 2nd floor for some thing the name I didn't know.  So as I had just got there at 2 and would have to leave at 3 we just stayed there.  What ever it was it was not something Kay could participate in.  One of the caregivers said she went to the activity room for the morning activities and stayed there the entire time  She might have been looking for me.  I am so concerned about her having to do nothing I am thinking of going there twice a day.  I would have to spend a lot of time in transportation there but I want to spend more time with here.  All she can do is just sit there looking at the walls.  What she is thinking about I don't know.   So many just walk the halls doing nothing.  I have to consider too maybe extending my time in one block instead going twice.  I could have lunch there.  Doing it longer seems to make it harder for me to get away without her wanting to go with me.  That is the hard part.  She has got used to me leaving and she doesn't seem to mind.  However that leaves the rest of her time with nothing to do.  Just stare at the walls.  I have spoken to one of the men there and as a result he now tends to follow me around.  Sad.  Kay is easy to take care of and needs to be with her family.  If I were not going blind I would take her from this and take care of her myself. My loneliness does not get any easier.   I could say more but I am tired. 

Monday, March 16, 2015

A Cure For Dementia

   Kay moves so very slowly but was alert enough to recognize me immediately.  I took her to get the treats then downstairs to watch people coming in.  We got a cup of coffee.   Nothing was going on in the activity room so I took her back to her room.  She actually dozed off during this time before I went home.



UCLA has pretty well established that dementia can be reversed if done in time.   It was a fairly small number in the program all of them recovered,  The participation  of the patient is vital so if the person with dementia is too far gone they cant be saved.  Others look into it.  It sure beats the horrible effects of dementia.  This is wonderful news.

Saturday, March 14, 2015

The Rumor Mill



got to see Kay early today.  However nothing was going on so after I gave her a couple truffles I took her downstairs and we sat in the sort of family area to see what was going on.  After a while we went back to her room for the remainder of the stay.  

I have said you cant believe anything you hear around here.  There seemed to be some sort of shake up involving firings some said on account of background checks.  Later however there seemed to be a simple explanation for the confusion.  So from here on I wont even start to believe rumors floating around unless I see it for myself. 
See You 

Friday, March 13, 2015

Eating out with Kay

 Tom and Peg took Kay and me out to eat today.   Before we left and when we first got there I suggested to the Caregiver that they check her over before we left to be sure she was OK to leave.  Well, this was easier said than done.  She really objected to leaving me  even an instant and raised a ruckus when the care giver tried to lead her away from me.  Tom and Peg were standing there watching her. .  In order to be sure she was in condition to leave I persuaded her to go back to her room where I thought more familiar surroundings would encourage her to allow the Caregiver to do her job.  Even there she didn't want me to leave her for an instant but less vociferously.  I helped the caregiver for a little while then she was able to do the job. We went out and had a nice lunch then back to her place where I got her to lay on her bed and waved goodbye when I told her I would be back tomorrow.  Looks like familiar surroundings made the difference.  I need to somehow get her accustomed to my not being there every day so my not coming wont be  such a shock.  This may take a while to do that. My first thought is to alternate my trip between morning and afternoon.  Starting Sunday I will go over in the afternoon.  That will allow me to go to church on Sunday. I really appreciate Tom and Peg taking the time to take us out.  A day is shot doing this. Stay tuned for further developments.

Thursday, March 12, 2015

KAY ok

 Kay seemed normal today.  So nothing to report there.  

The one time here when I don't look at the pills I take they give me someone else's pills.  The stacked head nurse came to tell me and explain what they were for.  Looks like nothing lethal.  It didn't kill the one that should have got them so I should be ok.  Doctors mistakes kill more people than cars so it is a good idea to check anyway.  

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Kay, free DVD,

Kay was on her bed and awake .  I took her for her treats but came back to see if there was wireless connection to the internet available.  As expected there was a network easily identifiable. That gave me hope that they would let Tom and me check Skype out.  We went to the activity room  before they were done in the exercise room which includes going over the news and what went on in history. I took Kay back to her room so we could be together a while and also to be there when I had to come home.  This in order to be where she accepts my going more readily.  

When  home I composed an email to the administrator there explaining how I could help get the idea of Skype for residents of the place if I could get internet access. Tom and I could test Skypes effect on Kay (if any) by me talking to her there.  If she was effected when she couldn't talk people who could talk back could certainly benefit.  Later I got an email back telling me they had to talk and vote and who knows what else to do anything without a lawyers OK.  That is like saying they cant hook up a computer (which I wanted to do,) without a vote and consulting a lawyer.  This indicates to me that she didn't have a clue about what had to be done.  She claimed she thought it was a great idea but actions speak louder than words.  She needn't worry too much about my reaction because my part in this is very minor. Kay can not benefit from the system.   All I could do is tell them if the idea might work or not.  Kind of a vital bit of information though.  Now if they decide to pursue the idea they will have to do it themselves.   Previously  I offered to work with the internet expert.  I don't know him and never met him so I have no idea what his attitude is to very old residents.  Many of the workers in a place like this seem to think everyone in it knows nothing about this digital age like they do.  My offer still stands though. It's up to them.  I am on to other things.

Yesterday morning the Activities Director and her assistant  stopped by my table after the announcements and told me the DVD I gave her assistant to watch was the most moving and emotional she had ever seen. She might have meant of this kind. I have had some good responses from others but this one was the best.  They said they cried when they watched it.  If that interests you make a comment.  You might get a free one.  

Monday, March 9, 2015

Kay

 I found Kay in her room awake.  I put her slippers on her and we walked to the truffle location.  When I passed by the activity room it had not been made up for a  meeting and sure enough there was no meeting.  It seems that now there are more people going to active day they are not holding meetings in the activity room.  So as it was after 10 anyway we went back to her room for the remainder of my visit.  
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Sunday, March 8, 2015

Kay

 Kay was in her room.  She needed some personal attention before I took her to the hall for her truffles.  She moves so very slowly.  She seemed a little slower today mentally. There have been students from a school for workers in this field at Cascade  and naturally it is assumed that anyone with a walker is living there. That's the way they talk to you. I gave a DVD of me and Kay on Pismo Beach 1944 to one of the nurses here.  She watched it with her husband last night.  I hear tho he is not quite her husband yet.  A very nice person.  I put it to some romantic music and told her to watch it when they were in a romantic mood. Just 5  minutes long.   OK. ring the curtain down now.  

Friday, March 6, 2015

Church Today

 Kay was awake in bed. Lots from her floor were on their way to Active Day.  They were setting up to have the Church Service usually held on Friday.  I gave her a couple truffles and a ritz cracker.  then I took her downstairs to the Service.  As I didn't get there until 10 it  was a short visit.  Besides the return bus was on time making it shorter.  We sat for most of the service not more than half an hour so I took her up to her room in  case the bus was on time or even early.  Which it was. It was early.  So we had short visit but she seemed happy and smiled every time I looked at her.  Looks like I have to have a Microsoft account for me to sign up with Skype.   I don't have to buy anything but they want me to be able to buy Apps.  I really hate being forced to sign up for the service. ore later

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

A proposal for Cascade

 A longer visit with her today as transportation by shuttle was on time.  I didn't find her in her room or activity room.  She was in the TV room without her walker so she walked down at least from breakfast without it as there is where I found it. We both shared my walker to our spot where I gave her the usual treats. They were doing exercises so I took her back and participated with them for a while.  Kay indicated she wanted to go somewhere else so I got her walker and when we went into the hall she indicated she had no preference which direction she wanted to go so I took her to her room  and she lay down.  She seemed tired although she didn't close her eyes.  I started a DVD of mine and lay down beside her with head on my arm to watch  it. It is one I intend to send to a friend but it needs additional work before I can mail it.  I could check out what it needed at her place.  I'm really put out that my remote for the TV has not been found.  There were only a couple residents there who knew where it was hidden but it seems not much effort was put into trying to find it. 


People in these places can never seem to get over wanting to get out and go home.  Two relatives  of Kay's died from dementia with a broken heart I believe.  It was just a few months after being put into  one of these places they died.  They were from a home where they had raised a family and had lived for many years.   I think that if those who can recognize their family and also talk might be able to recognize and benefit from  seeing their loved ones on a screen where they can also talk to them.  Eventually when they get dementia they lose their ability to talk on the phone.  They can hear but not really understand what is going on.  I have found from audio recording I made way back in 1950 brings back a realism of the speaker much more than a picture of the person.  My theory is that if the two were combined there is a possibility that the resident might want to talk to them.  The people who can still talk on the phone don't need this or those like Kay who can not talk probably wont benefit.  However I am going to try this with Bob's or Tom's help and see if she recognizes me with this arrangement. I've got to contact Tom first as he is more available.  I don't know if he has Skype installed.  I had it installed when it first came out but never used it.  Now I want to talk to Cascade and offer my help so it would take only their engineer and me to set it up and try it out. These places have their committees and bureaucracy just like big government do  even though this is not a big organization.  If this should work it could benefit the lonely forlorn people spending the rest of their lives cooped up like in a jail.  They say they are concerned about those in their care.  We will see.  If this works Cascade could make a name for itself. Wish me luck.

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

A skypes tri with Kay

 I am  worried now.  Kay has become so accustomed to my visits that she goes looking for me.  I got there about the usual time today and the caregiver said she went in to the dining room.  That is where we have the meetings.  Recently very erratic.  But  today the Caregiver said she was there but I didn't find her there or her room.  So I went to our  place in the hall and she was coming back from there obviously not finding me.  So I returned her there where we had the usual treats.   Some times I have to cancel a morning visit for one reason or other.  I don't know what is going on but exercise meetings are very  erratic lately.  I've seen groups going to Active Day recently many from the third floor where she lives. Now that she goes looking for me means she will be disappointed and I don't  know how she will take it.  

I met with the Administrator there about trying out a Skype kind of setup to give relatives and loved ones a chance to meet with their people in the facility.  Although she said it was a good idea I felt it was a lukewarm reception because her first reaction was that there might be a couple there who could handle it.  If she meant someone who could talk on the phone that is not what I meant.  It is entirely possible that it will not work at all.  But without trying it we will  not know.  I know from my experience  that hearing someones vice may be more real that seeing a picture.   I have family recordings going back to 1952 actually 1945 and when I hear someones voice from that era it gives a presence as real or more real of that person than looking at a picture of the person taken at the same time.  The voice seems to connect to the person now where the picture connects to them as they  were then. There is a difference.  I may just skip having Cascade look into it and get Bob to try it out some time with me and Kay.  If it doesn't seem to work we can just skip it.  Getting Cascade to do a real test as I want it mcaay not work.  The guy in charge may not put the effort into it that I want.  If it works Cascade would develop a real reputation for innovation.  

I asked a FOE request for how many emergency calls the Tacoma Fire Dept made in the last year there is a record of how many related to diabetics.  They are so worried about me overdosing but last I checked these 800 people were under  a doctors care.  

Monday, March 2, 2015

A new idea for Dementia

 During my visit today I went to the administrator and proposed to create a web cam hookup that would allow any relation and friend to talk to their relatives at Cascade.  I think that some there can get some benefit by watching and conversing with someone when there is both video of the person talking to them.  That may come  close enough to the real in person conversation This has to be a two way video and two way talking.  Her first reaction was that there might a couple there that could do it but her attitude indicates a closed mind before considering all options.  I think it possible that a person there who can still recognized their wife or husband can also perhaps recognize that person when they can hear their voice at the same time they see a video.  Tomorrow I go to the dementia support group and I will try to get a discussion on the subect.  I think her knee jerk reaction shows what her initial representation will be to the committee she  gives it too.  In spite of the fact she later thought it would be a good idea.  It might be a good idea but it will go nowhere unless she believes enough that she pushes the idea to the others.  We will see.  

Kay was with me when I was talking to her.  She was sitting and I was standing as there was not room for another chair.  After a while Kay got up and it seemed she just wanted to be standing next to me as long as I was standing.  I tried to get her to sit down but she insisted on standing.  
I missed the discussion group as  before they started I had taken Kay down to the area where guests and patients sit and talk.  This to give her some variety.    

Saturday, February 28, 2015

slow today

Nothing going on at Kays's place.  I took her for a walk around the halls. I have made a friend I think with one of the men there.    Now I may start taking Kay for a walk and find he is following.  After a while however he  gets tired of following or maybe forgets why he is following me and goes on his way.  He talks real well but you have to ask him something.  He never starts a conversation. There was no activity so at the end of the visit I just told Kay I would see her tomorrow.  I will go in the afternoon so I can go to church in the morning.  Brilliant sun but cold wind here today. 

Friday, February 27, 2015

Long visit today

 Kay was on her bed while the caregiver made the bed next to hers.  I walked her to the hall and gave her a couple truffles and half a banana.  I got there quite early, about   9 15.  What I should have done as there was to be a long visit would be to get out some the games or puzzles and see if she can still participate in putting them back together.  The last time I tried it she had no interest in even trying.  We spent a while in her room but she eventually indicated she wanted to get up.  Next time I will get to the puzzles sooner as it was too late to get into it. One of my favorite supporters now has dementia. A terrible shock.  I had not heard from her for a while and called her. After some talk she said she would probably have to stop driving because she could not find her way home at times.  That is a dead give away.  There is no question.  That is all it takes to know.  That one sentence told me without doubt.  Really terrible.     She has been much help to me I wish I could help her.  

Thursday, February 26, 2015

Afternoon visit

 Nothing was going on when I got there in the afternoon.  She was on the bed but awake.  I gave her a truffle but then walked her to the hall where we had the rest of her treats.  As this was the afternoon nothing was going on. When leaving one of the caregivers who conducts the morning exercises and news reading told me that she came to the activities room on her own.  I think  she thought that Kay came because of habit.  But it  is not so regular.  After thinking it over she may have been looking for me.  That gives me a hollow feeling in my stomach.  That she would go looking for me.  That's OK but she was disappointed and didn't find me.   I had rescheduled my trip to this afternoon.  I could have done it in the morning but that would have messed up my afternoon events. I was thinking of doing this twice a week,  Three times acthually because I wanted to go to church on Sunday.  I think I will change my time over there to slightly later and go back to the mornings.  Naw, that is no improvement.  All  morning visits except for Sunday. She depends on me so  much I will stay mornings except for Sunday.  Some days they don't have anything going on in the activity room.  Schedule is  irregular anyway so I can't depend on activites every day. Employees  don't show up and for other reasons. Lincoln the administrator said tonight at the formal dinner I should have brought Kay  Unfortunately I have no way of getting her here except by cab. A little pre-planning for the next one might permit me to get her here for the next dinner.  

Wednesday, February 25, 2015

Short visit today

 Kay didn't seem to want to be in the activity room where they were preparing for the days events.   I found her on her bed but awake.  I immediately took her into the hall for her treats.  She seemed inclined to want to go into the activity room when we passed by but I wanted to give her her treats.  After the treats I took her back to the activity room where they had already finished exercises so we listened to current events and other news for a while.  The bus didn't get there until 9 45.   A little after 
10 30 I took her back to her room and stayed there until the bus came at 11 00 straight up.  A short visit. She walked a little faster today.  Mentally about the same.  

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Good visit today. Bad ews nelsewhere.

 Kay was in bed but dressed.  When she saw me she immediately smiled in recognition.  A good sign.  She had her shoes on so I took her our for a walk and her treats.  She walks slowly.  Her ability to do something is also very slow.  What I mean by that is her ability to do something.  For instance I bring the walker for her and have to almost put her hands on the bars.  I don't just point at them I have to take her hands  and put them on the bars.  But she recognized me instantly  
.  I don't know if this is a temporary condition or a development of her dementia.  I can tell you I do not take this being apart easily.  I learned a couple a days ago that another person I know who has been a great help has dementia.  I am totally devastated. I depended upon her so much.  I bought a tiny digital sound recorder the other day expecting to make voice notes to help in writing my daily report.  So far I have not made a comment during the day then used it when doing the report.  I had several things I wanted to  remember but did not put them down.  It seemed at the time I could remember them when I did my report.  Tomorrow I will try to put them down.  Hopefully it will make this more interesting and informative.  

Monday, February 23, 2015

Quiet time with Kay

 Kay was in the dining room soaking up the heat coming from the hot air register.  She came with me to our place in the hall and I gave her a couple crackers and truffles.  I hid the truffles after that.  She now doesn't wait for me to get them out.  She even goes for seconds without me.  Nothing going on so we stayed in her room for the time with her.  

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Really really dull today

 Kay was still in her bed but dressed.  I sat beside her and gave her some truffles then two or three Ritz crackers.  I held her hand for a while then took her downstairs and sat in the reception area to watch people coming and going.  Then back to the 3rd floor and a walk around the hall.  then back to  her room until time to go.  No action in the activity room today.  

Saturday, February 21, 2015

I looked took Kay into  the hall where she seemed very hungry.  There was nothing going on today.   This is Sturday which might have accounted for it.  But it was on the schedule so more likely someone didn't show up.  Got me a chance to rest up anyway.  If she wants a truffle now she just goes to my bags and gets it.  I'll  have to take measures so she doesn't overeat the candy stuff.  She gets enough now.  

The lady at  my table goes to Active Day a place for people who needs mental stimulation.  She goes for the exercise.  Yesterday they  kicked her out.  She did something they didn't like.  They told her they were closing for the day.  But she found out they were still open.  It didn't seem to bother her much.  I'm not surprised.  She will blow up at a moments notice.  One moment ok but say something she doesn't like and she is off on a rant.  Didn't work with them looks like. My bet is they will ban her.  I think she has met her match. She has been here 9 years.  Too bad as she really needs it.  She can barely walk.  She takes 3 or 4 inch steps.  But wants the exercise so much she wont take a wheel chair.  She lives on pain pills.  I hope she has the sense to try to negotiate a settlement and keep her mouth shut.  More tomorrow.

Friday, February 20, 2015

Lunch with Kay

I stayed with Kay today for lunch.  She ate practically nothing.  Might have been because I gave her too many treats.  One care giver there said she eats well when I am coming.  But today I gave her too many treats.  It was unsalted mashed potatoes and gravy.  (Canned) and meat loaf.  the prepare food for people with no teeth.  I salted her's today but it didn't help.  He also said she is happy when I am coming.  As I stayed until 1 pm today she did not want me to leave.  You hate to see this happen.  It is hard to leave someone who cant comprehend what is going on but you have to.  The reason I am trying this out.  Which is better.  She was very used to me coming then leaving.  She never seemed to be hurt like she seemed today.  This will take more testing.  I bought a digital voice recorder to take notes during the day and not have to write it down which I never looked at again anyway.  Hopefully this will improve and become more informative.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Kay was very hungry today.

 Kay was hungry.  She ate a couple truffles then a couple ritz and one graham.  I wanted to stop there because I didn't get there until 10 and it would ruin her lunch if she ate too late.  So I took her to the activity room and we listened and I participated in the exercises.  While this was going on she started getting into my bags where I keep the treats so I let her have one truffle that she could eat without being too obvious to the others.  Especially the first one because she pops it whole into her mouth.  I decided by then it was time to take her to her room as it was getting late and we could have our time together there.  I left about 5 after 11 but then I had to wait over a half hour for the bus.  I could have been with her that time.  

Tomorrow I stay for lunch and go home at 1 pm

Wednesday, February 18, 2015

More time with Kay coming

 Kay was very hungry.  I was late and found that she had gone from the activity room to the TV room.  Looking like she didn't know what to do. She saw me and followed me into the hall and our place for treats.  We went back to the activity room and listened to the leader go over events and history for us.  I went back to her room with her and stayed there until time to go.  

I had asked Walberg yesterday to OK my eating over with Kay occasionally at noon.  I expected him to come up with a provisional OK to be OK'd by whoever OK's these things.  But he started thinking of things that had to be checked out first.  But this morning Lincoln called to me as I went out that it was fine and to just ask for a plate to be set for me.  As I have to coordinate the meal with my shuttle trips I need to tell them a day in advance anyway.  I am going to try a longer stay from time to time that would run into the lunch hour.   I could have ordered an afternoon trip but that takes my entire afternoon. 


The state is doing a detailed investigation of this place.  Whether it is a routine random investigation or for a reason I dont know.   How  these things work I presume the investigation is something done  in the course of doing business.    

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Sleepy Kay

Kay was sleepy today so we stayed in her room I was going to take her to the exercise room.  I am trying to make arrangements to eat over at her place and if I can I will stay until one pm.  If not I may try going over in the afternoon for a while like I do in the AM.  If I do this it will shoot the whole day

Monday, February 16, 2015

A great day out

 Yesterday  I think Kay had a wonderful time.  Tom and I went over about 9 45 ad waited a few minutes until the caregiver made her up.  We then took  her to church and got there about 10 20.  Just right.  When people stood she also stood but I could see she was not comfortable standing so I told her to sit.  She sat through the service just fine.  WE took her back
74 Years together.  
to be checked over at Cascade and then to OCB.  It was a wonderful day.   She enjoys  being with her kids.  She also likes to get out of the place.  Eve though she might not show it I know from past experience she gets bored looking at the 4 walls there.  All of them do I believe.  Today nothing going on but I leaned something about being blind.  I bought a voice recorder the other day but it had no manual.  I got to talking to a bus driver and he said they were used to keep a record of where you put something down.  As I was looking for the recorder I could see how it could help me keep track of things.  Now I make sure what I want is out in the open so I can see it.  I would improve on it by having two channels. One for normal recording and the other saved for where things are put down.  In this case someone had moved the recorder so that was the reason I could not find it. 

Friday, February 13, 2015

Ready for Sunday

 Kay was  dressed sort of but still in bed.  Except that an attendant was taking her to the bathroom.  For some time she wanted to touch my face and look at me.  It's nice to be loved like that. On the other hand it worries me because if I don't show up how much will it affect her?  

I went yesterday to walmart ad got some makeup to be put on her Sunday morning before we go to church.  I talked to one of the girls there the other day who said she would apply it.  I havent   seen her since then so I am not sure she will be there to do it. I got eyeliner, lipstick and eyebrow pencil.  Being Sunday there will be few people there to do it if that girl is ot there.  Here is hoping. 


Wednesday, February 11, 2015

Quite normal today. Short Visit

 Kay looked like she might be hurting.  She was in the acttivity room so I could not really ask.  I participated in the exercises for a few minutes then she got up to go so I took her for her truffles then back to her room.  After treats her expression that might mean pain was no longer there so I assumed she was ok.  Slightly different today because as I got close to her she wanted to caress my face and hold my hand. She didn't smile I don't think but just looked intently at me.  

She is so much easier than many with dementia to manage.  

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

Truffles and Ingrid Bauer

 Kay was on her bed when I got there so I took her to our hall spot for treats.  Nothing was going on for some reason.  She seemed very hungry and ate at least 3 truffles and part of a banana/  Then she ate a couple graham cracker. We started back and walking around the hall for exercise before going to her room.  I usually let her use my walker because she likes it.  It also has my bags on it with the truffles.  This time which she have never done before she stopped and tried to get into my bag with the truffles. I helped her get another one.  Then we got to her room and stayed there for the rest of the stay.  

I sent an email to a Prof. Ingrid Bauer who is at the U of Salzburg.  She seems to be there but I will not know until she answers.  She interviewed me on our trip there for a book she was writing. There are some things I want to ask her about. There is a woman here who lived in Berlin at the Russian capture.  She said some things I would like to ask Ingrid about.     She may know the answer.  

Monday, February 9, 2015

Kay has a cold looks like

 Kay was on her bed when I got there.  She has a runny nose and I suppose a cold.  Not surprised at all as these places have someone with colds all the time.  When we  lived in Covington I don't think we had a cold for years.  She seemed hungry.  She ate most of a banana I had plus at least two graham crackers.  then at least 3 truffles before I left.  So she was hungry.  Other than that nothing much happened.

Saturday, February 7, 2015

War coming with Russia

 These neocoms are going to get their war with Russia.  A very informed writer tells us what is really going on in Ukriane
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That Didn't Take Long: The First Lie about Moscow Meeting

Kerry claims the initiative came from Moscow

By Pepe Escobar
February 07, 2015 "
ICH" - "Russia Today" - RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSION, RUSSIAN AGGRESSIONNot much has filtered out of the Medusa Merkel/General Hollande/Vlad tense threesome in Moscow. And yet John Kerry, as usual, is already lying through his teeth about their trip to the Kremlin. 

He said Putin had sent “a couple of ideas” to France and Germany, and Merkel/Hollande were responding. Nonsense: Merkel/Hollande – in desperation – went to Moscow to talk to Putin because Putin has the ONLY possible plan to stabilize Ukraine - and that has been the case for months now.
Otherwise, there WILL be war, which is exactly what Empire of Chaos masterminds in D.C. want.
Kerry lied the extra mile when he said the US wanted a diplomatic solution. BUT then came the usual talk of “reviewing all options”, including “the possibility of providing defensive systems to Ukraine”.
Do that – and the Russian response will be devastating.
No wonder the absolute majority of the EU – apart from crackpot Lithuanians – is opposed to weaponizing Kiev’s goons.
The Süddeutsche Zeitung – a very decent paper – last Sunday featured Russian military expert Yevgeny Buchinsky warning that if that happens, “Russia will have to intervene, and then, bluntly speaking, to take Kiev. Then NATO would be in a difficult situation. Then you would have to start World War III, which no one wants.”
That may be a bit Dr. Strangelovian and over the top – but the Süddeutsche Zeitung was on the money to stress Washington weaponizing Kiev’s goons would be interpreted by Russia as a declaration of war.
Medusa Merkel, on the record, is against it. But Chocolateshenko is, what else, hysterical: “I don’t have any doubt that the US and other partners will provide help with lethal weapons so that Ukraine will be able to defend itself.”
"If that happens, all hell will break loose. Russia will act. And the Empire of Chaos will spin it as "more aggression". Escalation will be inevitable. And then all bets are off.
Predictably, Western corporate media is spinning this whole debacle is now due to FEAR OF THE DEVIL – as in Vlad. The fears apparently rampant in Brussels and assorted European capitals (among pol clowns, for sure; NOT in the streets)
The rhetoric is beyond ominous.
Carl Bildt, former Swedish foreign minister, said war “between Russia and the West” was now CONCEIVABLE.
General Hollande, on the record, talked about the risk of “total war”.
General Sir Richard Shirreff, top British banana, sorry, NATO “commander” until last March, said a “strong message” should be sent to Putin if MAINLAND EUROPE (!!!) was to avoid “total war”.
Fogh of War Rasmussen – the Return of the Living Dead! – said that Putin could expand “Soviet revisionism” to NATO and the EU. In the Baltics, he said Putin would go for a little exercise in “hybrid warfare”.
There will be more (minor) EU sanctions on Monday. The hardcore economic sanctions against Russian banks and companies lapse only in July. Italy and Greece may torpedo them for good when that happens.
Even EU bureaucrats admit – off the record – sanctions are ridiculous, sanctioning in fact the EU for least 15% of exports to Russia. The Brits, predictably – shades of the Great Game never vanish – lead the pro-sanction crowd.
Some idiot in the Grauniad passing as “Europe editor” (where do they find these people? Getting pissed in a pub after an Arsenal match ?) wrote that “Putin is increasingly seen as a reckless gambler who calls bluffs and takes risks, and is inscrutable, paranoid and unpredictable.” Looks like this was ghostwritten by a State Department hack.
And other rags go on the same road: the real nightmare for Europe is not Ukraine, bur Evil Vlad. NO ONE dares to criticize the Empire of Chaos.
And now back to…
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Not much exceitement

 Not much going on.  Th e usual ritual with Kay and as there seems to be nothing going on in the activity room I took her back to her room for the rest of the stay. She seemed sleepy anyway.  She is moving so slow.  Could be because she does not get enough exercise.  Like walking.


I   think I will let it go at that.  I am working on a  new chapter of WW2 .  I will look and compare the narrative so see if it really could be good enough to put in book form.  Soon I might be able to let the owner of this place take a look at it and see if I should keep that in mind or just forget it in the future.  I have not gone to great effort to keep the pictures exactly in sync with the narrative because that takes a long time and a lot of effort.  In it's place I will add captions which should be easier.  My eyes may put a stop to this sooner than later.  Before I am finished with the project. 

Friday, February 6, 2015

Inspectn toay

Kay's place was bad today.   

The place really stunk today.  It hasn't been this bad since I complained and they  fixed the problem.  I called a caregiver and asked her to clean it up.   Both rooms and bathroom smelled very bad.   It was not completely cleared  but it was improved.  You can not let these small rooms have anything soiled as it will smell bad.  It is wall electric heat and I know from experience to clear it out that without the air circulating out of the room it will not smell good.    Later the various supervisors toured the 3rd floor as an inspection.  Whether they went into the rooms I don't know but if they did not go in, their inspection was meaningless.  If they didn't find anything on the third floor their inspection was a failure.  They have had a notice up for about a month that everyone was to attend a staff meeting yesterday.  Without except ion. To do the  job right they must keep the old clothing, removed from  patients, out of these small rooms.  Not long ago I gave a complement on how well it was going but the next day it was bad.  I believe the patients are paying for a pleasant enviorment.  Before they got to the state they are in now, they would not live that way  And  now   that they are helpless it is no excuse to let it happen because it takes  work and they are not able to protest.  Really funny about the inspection.  If they found nothing and this was the worst day so far I think these inspections are a big laugh.      

Thursday, February 5, 2015

A great time today.

 Bus was late again and I only got there at almost ten.  They were already doing exercises.  Kay was in with  them but seeming very  sleepy.  Sitting there with her eyes closed.  I did exercises with them until they quit and went to discussing historical events or historical people born on this day.  The group always  sit attentively and participates when possible.  The leader may run across something new to her and we try to find out what it is.  She has a smart phone and uses it for quick answers.  Today they got on the subject of dancing. Like dancing to various kinds such as to country or modern as she called it.  I suggested the difference was between country and rock and roll which caused some agreement and discussion.  That allowed me to tell the group that Kay was a good dancer.  The she also volunteered at the USO club to etertian the soldiers and sailors back from the war.  Or going I suppose.  How she was so good that a  night club on first avenue wanted her to dance for them.  Of course this subject is in the memory of lots of them.  More like after the war while big band swing was still in vogue.  We had a lively discussion and they all had a real good time.  They can talk about that as they remember it. It is not something in the short term that they forget.  I think the leader learned a lot not just from me but the memories from many in the group who also remember.  Have you ever thought about how the name "Dive"  came to be associated with sleezy night clubs? some of the night clubs on First avenue are in basements.  I remember the old movies about the Prohibition era where you went down to the club also in a basement.  My guess is that this idea of a "dive" came from this.  We had a real good time and they told a lot about jitterbug dancing and other forms from the people there.  

After this I took her to our spot and gave her a couple truffles then back to her room for the rest of the short stay that remained before the bus came.  This was a fun time today.  
They are like little children in a lot of ways. One that they are so easily led.  But I remember that any of them may have a past that exceeds any  I have.  The lady  who comes to our Alzheimer's meeting said her mother was a world traveler.  Any of them could have pasts like education, careers or  some that I might envy.  I am so appreciative I still have my memory intact.  This is a terrible disease. To my dying day I am determined to keep Kay in touch with her past. That is all she has left and it is up to me.  She walks very very slowly but her mind seems to remain just about the same.  It is hard to tell if there is change. 

Wednesday, February 4, 2015

Robert Fisk Comments

 Genghis Khan-style Cruelty of Isis 

The tens of thousands of Sunni Muslims who had demanded the pilot be freed now know what their fellow Muslims in Syria and Iraq had in mind for him

By Robert Fisk
February 04, 2015 "ICH" - "The Independent" - So they burned him in hellfire. That was what Islamic State (Isis) wanted to show the world. This was Genghis Khan-style cruelty. First, Isis forced the Jordanians and the Japanese to acknowledge its power - by offering a Japanese journalist as bait for negotiations - and then showed the Jordanian king and the Japanese prime minister what it thought of them. The Jordanians had demanded proof that Flt Lt Muath al-Kasaesbeh was alive, and they were given their evidence – as he was led into his cage of fire. The Syrian military could have warned King Abdullah of Jordan what to expect: months ago, Isis put captive Syrian soldiers to the torch – and then barbecued their heads on video. And no-one said a word.
For King Abdullah, who had offered the failed al-Qaeda suicide-bomber Sajida al-Rishawi as payment for al-Kasaesbeh’s life, there may, most dreadfully, be advantage in the burning alive of his young pilot. Those tens of thousands of Jordanian Sunni Muslims who had demanded he free al-Kasaesbeh now know what their fellow Muslims in Syria and Iraq had in mind for him. But who among the Arabs will not now also question the cost of supporting the American war against Isis?
In the West — where we have almost run out of clichés of loathing – we will describe this Isis version of burning-at-the-stake as barbarous, heinous, inhuman, apocalyptic, animal, etc. But Muslims may reflect that among the first verses of the Koran is a warning to them, of the “grievous chastisement” to be visited upon those who only pretend to believe, the ‘monafaqin’, those who lie to themselves, who are not ‘true believers’. There are the true believers, of course. There are the non-believers. But then there are the ‘pretenders’, who will suffer – and here I use Tarif Khalidi’s latest translation of Islam’s holiest book – “painful punishment”.
Of which – and the clergy of the European Middle Ages would agree – the fires of hell are most painful of all. But many Muslims may see, in Isis's’ frightful action, one awful misdirection of God’s message. For it is God who must visit the ‘pretenders’ with punishment. God is the judge on the day of judgement. Not Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi or the Isis media men who filmed the cage and the poor man writhing in torment within under the torrent of petroleum. It is, of course, for the Muslim world to decide on this strange interpretation, but there will be ruthless leaders aplenty – Bashar al-Assad of Syria comes to mind, now that we have decided that his enemies are even more horrible than him – who will benefit from the cruelty of the last few hours.
Long before Isis butchered the Iraqi army and Iraq’s Shias, and put the Christian and Yazidi peoples to flight, it was chopping up the corpses of the Syrian government’s supporters and sending videotapes of their decapitation to their families before releasing them to a public which largely preferred to look aside. It is not Isis which has changed. It is us. Our intolerance of the autocrats of the Middle East – of the al-Sissis and al-Assads, of the Hashemite monarchy, of the quivering princes of the Gulf, even of the Supreme Leader of Iran, Ayatollah Khamenei – is already mutating in the face of the Caliphate. All must surely become our ‘moderates’ again, those who wish to ‘unite against terror’ now that we gaze upon the fires of hell in Raqaa and Mosul. 
For Isis, their Muslim enemies must, by definition, be traitors to their faith. And so we may re-read the Khalidi translation with special care. “And if someone says to them: ‘Do not sow discord in the earth,’ they answer: We are merely trying to bring people together”.
Which is what the ‘moderates’ say, of course. And poor Flt Lt al-Kasaesbeh, in his agony.

New idea to break shock

 If I could walk I could have walked to Kay's place faster than the shuttle got me there, So I was somewhat late.  Fortuntely the bus was late picking me up so I had a fairly adequate visit.  Except for walking very slowly there hasn't been any change in her.  

I am going to look into if connecting a web cam to a network so patients who might have the faculties to understand can talk and see their loved ones.  Obviously those who dont know their relatives wont be able to use it. Most people will not but some might.  Kay wont I dont think but she has not been offered the opportunity.  It will take some thinking. The object is to make them feel in contact.  Others who might want to help me with this may have bettr ideas than I have,   For instance  I have a little kids lunch box I got at walmart.  She knows when she sees it that she will be getting a treat. that is where I keep it.  If I were to show it on the webcam the caregiver would giver her a truffle.  Of course there might be un-intended consequences too but this is what we have to look into. To me it is heart breaking to see someone put in this place and ALL of them want out.  Sad.  Can we  make life more bearable for them?  I will present this to the people who come to the Altzheimers support group this evening at 6:30 and see what they think about it.  There are always naysayers but someone should start it. 

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Superbowl Sunday.






Superbowl Sunday. I didn't change my schedule  on account of it. I went to church then in the  afternoon went over to see Kay.  She was in the the dining room.  Our ususal detour to truffle heaven then to her room for the rest of the stay.  No action in the activity room.  She seems to appreciate being with me so I dont worry about keeping her mind active. The game had already started bythe time I got home.  Half time commercials and show are boring to me.  This place did a good job for dinner by providing a plastic container with the dinner in it so we could go to our room to see the game.  If you had a TV.   

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Fog. lots of it.

 Kay was her usual self today.  Although exercises were scheduled it didn't look like anything was going to happen as the dining room had not been re-arranged for exercises.  So as the bus was quite late getting there we just  stayed in the room until time to go.  I was tired anyway.  I have changed my schedule to go  see her tomorrow  afternoon and will go to church during the morning.  

Foggiest morning I can remember this morning. It is finally clearing away about 2 PM

Thursday, January 29, 2015

 I got to see Kay late today.  So I took her immediately to the Activity Room without giving her any treats.  While the events were going on she pointed to the bag where the treats were indicating she expected to get some.  As I could not give them to her in the room with all the others  I was forced to take her to our spot in the hall and do it there.  But we did not  stay   and went back to the activity room for a while before coming back to her room.  All in all it was a good visit.    



Wednesday, January 28, 2015

A Love Story Continues

 Kay was on the bed so  I assumed she was sleepy and did not want to walk or go to the activity room for exercises.  Later in the stay I was checking my snacks I keep  with me  when my b/g starts to go low. This will happen about 11 00.  At this time a woman and patient went into the next room. She could see me through the door but not Kay on the bed.  When she saw me she commented  "Oh there is someone else here."   I made some non-committal reply and left it at that.  I figured she was a new person and did not know about me.  Sure enough shortly a caregiver came in and asked if there had been a man in the room.  I told her I was the only one.  In a few minutes a couple more came in and wanted to know the same.  Of course the Caregivers knew me and left when I  told them I was the only one there.   I hope they found the person and enlightened her about the situation. 

On the way home the driver was the one who some time ago was complaining about his broken up love life. He had complained that his   live-in girl friend of 14 years objected to being kicked out on the street while he hooked up with a new girlfriend.  Oddly enough this part is being written while a program on RT is discussing delayed marriage and living together.  To bring you up to date on their situation the driver wanted to kick his live  in girlfriend out of the apartment and bring in his new girlfriend.  To make this especially difficult is the fact that  she had no job to fall back on.  As a person of somewhere around more than 50 she had no way of doing anything but go to the streets. From the developments it is obvious this woman over the  years has developed a relationship with this guys mother.  So when he quit paying rent on the apartment she moved in with his mother which he also did. Where the girlfriend is in all this I don't know.  I am not impressed with her IQ when she is playing around with a guy who is willing to kick out into the street a girlfriend he lived with for 14 years. I'm  not impressed with spurned girlfriend either if she doesn't know that in this state there is something called Common Law Marriage that should work for her.  This would be funny if it wasn't so tragic.   

The program just finished was all for delayed marriage and even no marriage at all.  I say why get married at all if you can get all the benefits without any responsibility.  But this would be a view from the mans perspective.  You can go to places like this and where Kay is and see the results of no one to visit these lonely people.   

Tuesday, January 27, 2015

Nice trip lousy Acer Computer

 Kay was on the bed when I got there in good time.  I gave her a couple truffles and part of a  banana.  We went to the Activity room and participated in the events.  She was alert and acted very affectionate to me.  About 30 minutes before time to go I took her back to her room and stayed there until time to go.  The bus was on time so I got home earlier than usual.I have to figure out how to get the printer installed on this computer.  I cant print print from my main computer because the display does not show the page properly as it is now.  I think some java file is missing but don't know how to fix it,   This old 32 bit HP has all its/ marbles but I am  not sure it can install the printer.  It may be a 64 bit and I don't know what effect that will have.  So for the rest of the afternoon I will probably spend it trying to fix it. I bought a lousy Acer which I am sending back to Costco because it is making it hard to use as it is trying to sign me up for something or sell me something all the time.  Add that o Windows 8 doing the same thing and I want to get rid ot it.    

Monday, January 26, 2015

New survey

 I didn't get to Kay's until two pm.  It was sunny and still warm for January.  So I put a coat on her and took her outside for a while. They want  me to fill out a survey.  Glad to do it.  One of the shortcomings of this place is there is absolutely no open spaces except for the paved small yard at the front.  It didn't look like there were any activities to be coming for this day as the dining room tables were still in place.  They usually take them away and put chairs around the room.. I have made contact with two women here at my place who's husbands have dementia and will be moving to where Kay is.  One has a husband in a rehab place from a foot operation and she goes to see him every day, There seems to be quite a few who does what I do.  Not many over 90 I would think.  It was a short visit but good.  

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Good visit but Kay has cough

Made it to see Kay.  She was in the activity room.  I took her to our spot and gave her a couple truffles and a graham cracker.  We went back to her room.  She was in good spirits.  She seemed to have a cough She seemed to operate very slowly when moving and thinking.  We were in her room for a little while then she seemed to want to go out so I took her to the activity room where the leader was keeping them occupied. It was not long before I had to go anyway. She seemed to respond differently than in her room when I leave which was wave goodbye as she understood what was going on. I left and did not have any opportunity to see how it turned out naturally.  She seems to get along well with all the patients there.  They seem to like her  She waves to them when she sees them.  It was so warm and nice that after truffles I put a coat on her and took her outside to the enclosure next to the building.  they have a couple tables and some benches and chairs. We didn't really need the coat but she likes it extra warm. It was a good visit except for the worry that she might have a cough.  

I went up to  the 1st Pres Church  during the week and asked if someone could give me a ride to church.  The lady said that they didn't have a bus but she would look around and see if there was anyone to do it.  Didn't sound encouraging and so it turned out.  I had to   walk. An assistant pastor from the Maple Valley Pres. church was there and after the service I introduced Came home from seeing Kay and we picked up a woman going to the same place as I. Turns out her husband was in the facility she came from because he was recovering from some sort of surgery on his foot from an injury.  He also will be going to be where Kay is after rehab. I me
t another woman a few days ago who thought her husband would also have to go there too. Google blogger stinks.  It is so hard to fix mistakes it acts so irrationally.  Excuse mistakes